A common misconception that I have encountered as a relationship coach is that women know men don’t like romance as much as they do. But men also want to feel cherished, romanced, loved, and pursued too.
I’ve listened to men who appeared strong on the outside pour out privately to me that all they wanted was to feel desired, appreciated, chased, and emotionally admired by the woman they cared about.
Women believe romance is mostly a man’s job. As a result, some women emphasize receiving romance instead of acknowledging how impactful it feels when a woman deliberately does it too. Romance should never be one sided. Partners should make efforts to keep the relationship healthy.
Men may not typically come right out and ask for romance the way women do, but they notice when you go out of your way to show effort, kindness, tender gestures, appreciation, and love. Doing random sweet things for your partner can make him feel respected, loved, emotionally secure, and connected to you. It may not always be the expensive gestures he remembers.
It’s the little things you did that took more thought than money.
67 Ways Women Can Be Romantic
- Send him a random text in the middle of the day letting him know something you saw reminded you of him and made you smile.
- Approach him from behind while he is occupied doing something and hug him tightly without saying any words.
- Cook his favorite comfort food after realizing he had a long, stressful day both mentally and physically.
- Make eye contact with him while he is speaking to you and let him know you are fully listening.
- Send him an encouraging voice note before he begins his workday to let him know you have his back.
- Leave him a handwritten note in his wallet he will find later.
- Hold his hand when walking and link your fingers together for no particular reason.
- Call him in the middle of the night and let him hear your voice because you wanted to.
- Sit beside him quietly after he had a long, stressful day and place your head on his shoulder.
- Plan a surprise date for him based on things he has subtly said he likes.
Read also: 35 Romantic Things to Do for Your Boyfriend - Kiss him out of nowhere when he is concentrating on something and make him chuckle afterward.
- Wear a piece of clothing he told you he liked and grin when he notices.
- Send him pictures of the two of you from the past with heartfelt memories.
- Tell him you’re proud of him for how hard he has worked, even if he hasn’t finished what he started.
- Bring him his favorite snack when you get home from work because you were thinking about him.
- Lightly squeeze his hand when watching a movie and hold your hands together.
- Tell him you still get butterflies every time you are around him, even after years of being together.
- Actively listen when he talks about things he likes and become enthusiastic.
- Pull him close for a hug and squeeze him for a few extra seconds.
- Leave him adorable notes on the bathroom mirror for him to see when he wakes up.
- Tell him you enjoy spending time with him and why.
- Make him breakfast in bed even though it’s not his birthday or a holiday.
Read also: How to Teach Your Husband to Be Romantic: 8 Tips - Place your hand on his shoulder while having a conversation to make him feel intimate.
- Text him in the middle of his day and tell him to take his time and breathe.
- Tell him you feel safest around him when it comes to emotions.
- Ask him about the things he likes and want to know more about them.
- Sit with him outside and take in silence together.
- Give him a long hug when he leaves for his workday and really mean it.
- Make him a playlist of songs that make you think of home when you’re together.
- Catch his eye from across the room and flirt with just your eyes.
- Tell him you miss him even if he just left your home minutes ago.
- Bring him his favorite drink or coffee while he is working and he didn’t ask you to.
- Randomly send him a selfie during your day and tell him you were thinking about him.
- Pull him close and gently hold his face while telling him you love him.
- Take his duties from him every once in a while to let him relax.
- Text him cute things in the middle of his day.
Read also: How to Teach Your Boyfriend to Be Romantic: 8 Tips - Tell him you appreciate everything he does, even the small things he does that others may ignore.
- When talking to him, walk beside him and lean your head onto his shoulder.
- Tell him you love that he tries, even when he hasn’t mastered what he wants to accomplish.
- Surprise him with a ticket or activity he has mentioned he enjoys.
- Wish him a good morning text telling him he will be the first thing you think of when you open your eyes.
- Listen to him when he talks instead of thinking about what you will say next.
- Sit close next to him on the couch even when there is space away from him.
- Beam from ear to ear when he enters the room.
- Tell him what you love about the way he looks.
- Pull him close when you can tell he had a hard day emotionally.
- Randomly place your hand on his thigh when both of you are lying down.
- Send him uplifting texts before he has an interview or big event.
- Whisper during arguments instead of yelling across the room.
- Recreate a memory that you two enjoy.
- Look through old photo albums together and laugh about past memories.
- Give him a genuine compliment when others are around.
- Tell him that your phone lights up every time you see a notification from him.
- Create an environment that makes him feel safe when being emotional around you.
- Go on a walk with him and allow him to have your undivided attention (put your phone down).
- Surprise him with a gift that you picked out because he mentioned he liked it a few months ago.
- Adjust his collar back into place and smile when he looks over at you.
- Send him a text letting him know that you’ll be praying for him that day.
- Tell him you’re proud to call yourself the woman that loves the man he is becoming.
- Hold his hand when life seems to be hard on him and don’t say a word.
- Watch his favorite show with him even though it’s not necessarily your genre.
- Look at him like you’re trying to win him over again.
- Make him feel as if he can’t live without your love.
- Remind him of the moments your life changed when you met him.
- Continue to court him when you both get comfortable in your relationship.
- Let him know that he makes you feel incredible simply by being himself.
- Choose him. Every day.
Why Romance Matters So Much in Relationships
Women should know that romance does more than create fun moments. Romance makes people feel connected, validated, and secure emotionally. Relationships that lack romance may struggle to provide emotional fulfillment. They can start to feel friend zoned, transactional, and disconnected.
Men may appear as if they have it all together, but most men internally face a lot on their plate. They get overwhelmed with work, paying bills, responsibilities, expectations, relationships, and all sorts of internal battles they will likely never express. Many romantic gestures mean the world to him because your words and actions can help assure him that you love him for more than what he can do for you. You love him for who he is.
Also, did you know that relationships lose attraction as time goes by? Dates become few and far between. Stress and busy schedules take away from spending quality time together. It’s little acts of romance that will keep you two connected when the world tries to rip you apart.
Conclusion
Remember that romance doesn’t have to be complicated. Simple gestures that cost you nothing but thought can impact your man.
Great relationships aren’t built on good chemistry or initial attraction. Sure, they help, but lasting relationships are built on a continuous effort to make your partner feel loved, seen, appreciated, and emotionally connected to you.
So, to all the women in relationships out there, never discredit the power of your charm, kindness, affection, romance, and encouragement toward your significant other.
They notice more than you think.
FAQ
Do men really like women being romantic?
Yes. Ladies, men really do appreciate you when you show little acts of kindness and romance. They want to feel loved just as much as you do.
What are some romantic gestures a woman can do?
Honoring your partner through texts, listening carefully, bringing them their favorite food because you were thinking about them, giving them your attention when they need it, hugs, massages, thoughtful surprises, affectionate touch, and much more.
Will being romantic improve my connection with my partner?
Definitely. It helps them feel close to you and wanted, both of which are important for maintaining attraction.
Why does my relationship lack romance?
When life becomes busy and stressful, couples often neglect to continue dating each other. They stop prioritizing spending quality time together and being intimate. Romance tends to die when couples become comfortable and stop trying. Another reason could be that maybe your partner feels you don’t appreciate them. Partners who feel undervalued typically withdraw affection.
Should I only be romantic at the beginning of a relationship?
No. As a matter of fact, you should be more romantic during the later stages. Once a relationship becomes comfortable is when couples should focus more on keeping the romance alive.
What is my problem in my relationship if we don’t focus on romance?
If you’re lacking romance, there is a good chance you may never develop a strong emotional connection. Emotional connection is crucial for a relationship to thrive, and without romance your partner will slowly feel and lose that.
What do most couples do wrong when it comes to romance?
The moment couples think that just because they found someone to love, their partner will automatically know how to love them or that they know how to love their partner. They assume that love can magically sustain itself when, in reality, it takes work from both partners.
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