I’ll never forget this moment where I saw two people who clearly liked each other. It wasn’t physical attraction either, they just knew they liked each other. But when they finally acted on their feelings, there was one girl who did something interesting.
She wasn’t chasing him. She wasn’t begging for his attention. She wasn’t throwing herself at him, trying to convince him that she was into him. What she did was simply focus on herself and let him hang loose.
Then, all of a sudden, he perked up and started paying attention.
Ever since that moment, I realized that most people have jealousy all wrong. They think you have to beg for attention and try to play mind games.
But here’s the thing: jealousy has nothing to do with games. It has everything to do with perception.
If you focus on the wrong things, you won’t spark any attraction. You’ll only push him away.
10 Powerful Ways to Make a Guy Jealous
1. Put the Emphasis on Yourself First
If you want a guy to feel like he’s missing something when you’re not around, start living your life as if you don’t need him.
When you’re always available and giving him all of your attention, he doesn’t know you any better.
But when you focus on yourself and pay more attention to yourself, he will.
- This taps into the attractor self confidence
- You become more mysterious by not flooding him with your attention 24 7
He notices when you’re suddenly acting differently around him. And when he sees that you have a life without him, it puts a lot of value on the time that you do spend together.
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2. Don’t Be Too Available
This goes hand in hand with what I just talked about. You have to allow yourself some breathing room.
Don’t jump at his messages. Don’t rush to reply.
Sure, if he texts you, you should respond. But you don’t always have to drop everything you’re doing.
You become a lot more attractive when you allow yourself some freedom.
- This allows you to spark the attractor of relationship dynamics
He thinks about you when you’re not available.
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3. Step Up Your Game
Look better.
Feel better.
When you improve your appearance and energy, other people will notice you more. When he notices other people paying attention to you, he’ll start to take notice.
It’s all about sparking the attractor of personal attraction
He won’t need to be jealous because you’re radiating so much magnetism.
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4. Have Fun with Other People
I know what you might be thinking: should I flirt with other guys?
Nope. Don’t do that.
You don’t have to go around flirting with every guy you see. But you should speak to people and show your social side.
This establishes a powerful form of social proof. If he sees that other people enjoy your company, he’ll think more of you.
5. Don’t Chase Him
There is never a need to chase a guy.
If you feel like you have to keep the relationship going by texting him every hour, throwing yourself at him, or begging him to talk to you, then you’re pushing him away.
Let him miss you.
Allow him to chase you.
Allow him to desire you.
It’s all part of the attractor of relationship dynamics
Let him worry about losing you instead of you worrying about losing him.
6. Give Him the Idea That You Have Other Options
You don’t have to yell it from the rooftops, but you also don’t have to hide it in the corner.
Let him know you, meaning other guys, interest you.
Don’t make him feel like you have plenty of guys giving you attention. Just hint at the fact that you could do way better than him if you wanted to.
It triggers the attractor of scarcity
Men love the idea that there are other girls out there who would love to take their place.
7. Be a Little Bit Mysterious Every Now and Then
Give him a little bit of a peek into your life, but don’t give him the full ride.
You don’t have to share every detail about your day with him.
When you become a little mysterious, it allows him to wonder what you’re doing.
Curiosity keeps the brain engaged, and by you tapping into this, you are allowing him to engage with you more.
8. Don’t Get Too Emotional About What He Does
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
If he screws up or says something wrong, don’t immediately go into panic mode.
Let things happen. Don’t take everything he does or says personally.
This ties into emotional attractor.
You become a calm and level headed person that he will want to be around.
9. Let Him See You Live Your Life
Never hide the fact that you have a life away from him.
If you two are spending less time together, make sure you show him you’re having fun without him.
Post pictures of you with your friends, enjoying yourself, and living your best life.
It will trigger feelings of jealousy when he realizes that you could absolutely do this without him.
10. Be Yourself Never Force It
As I said earlier, don’t try too hard.
You don’t want to force jealousy.
Be gentle with the hints you drop. If you bombard him with these tips, you’ll just push him away.
Instead, aim to be better than you were yesterday.
Allow these tips to come naturally, and if they do, you’ll find yourself landing everything you want.
Conclusion
Making your man jealous isn’t about threatening him or trying to create some sort of drama between the two of you.
It’s about showing him that you have a life without him and that you’re going to continue living that life whether he’s in it or not.
As long as you focus on bettering yourself and having fun, you’ll always attract the right guy into your life.
Remember: don’t chase him, be patient, and focus on bettering yourself every single day.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is it okay to make my boyfriend jealous?
It sure is, as long as you do it subtly and don’t get too crazy.
What’s the worst mistake I can make trying to make my boyfriend jealous?
Forcing it. Nothing turns a guy off faster than a girl that’s trying too hard.
Will making my boyfriend jealous make him love me more?
It’ll definitely make him pay more attention to you. But it won’t make him love you.
True feelings take time.
How will I know if it’s working?
He starts picking up on your cues. He texts you more, he talks to you more, and he shows an interest in what you’re doing.
Can this backfire on me?
If you overdo it, then yes. You don’t want to go telling him that 50 other guys are obsessing over you every chance you get.
Be subtle about the whole thing.
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