I was talking to a female friend recently about this topic. She was confused about this guy she had been seeing.
She looked at me and said:
“I don’t understand why he does this…”
“I constantly hear him talking about other girls when we’re together.”
At first, she didn’t think much of it. She figured it was coincidence. Maybe he was just talking. Maybe those other women were just friends/co-workers and nothing more.
But the more she described the situation, the more it clicked.
It wasn’t coincidental.
He was trying to make her jealous.
Over the years, I’ve studied all types of relationship situations and really started to understand human emotional behavior. I’ve learned that some people like to play games with jealousy.
Sometimes they do it knowingly. Other times, it’s immature behavior. But most of the time, guys tease you by making you jealous to see how you react.
They’re testing the waters.
When a man is trying to make you jealous, you will usually see several of these signs.
His actions won’t lie to you.
If you pay attention to his behavior, you’ll be able to know he’s trying to make you jealous every time it happens.
Here are 11 signs he is trying to make you jealous.
1. He Constantly Talks About Other Girls
One of the biggest signs a guy is trying to make you jealous is he brings up other women when you’re talking.
It could be:
- A girl at his workplace
- A girl he ran into that he thinks is cute
- A girl that hit on him
Regardless of the scenario, he is throwing her name into the conversation to see how you’ll react.
This tactic falls under emotional triggers in relationships. He wants to invoke some type of emotional reaction from you.
Even if he doesn’t know it.
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2. He Brags About Other Dating Opportunities
Another sign he might be trying to make you jealous is he mentions other girls he could date.
He may say things like:
- “Girl, I could sleep with any woman I want.”
- “This one chick hit on me the other day.”
- “I’ve been getting a lot of attention lately.”
He isn’t saying these things to be polite.
When a guy points out other dating opportunities, he’s trying to plant the seed that you could lose him if you don’t act right.
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3. He Becomes Extra Active on Social Media
A less obvious sign he could be trying to make you jealous is by acting suspiciously on social media.
He may start posting pictures with other girls, liking their photos, or commenting on their social media posts.
If he knows you follow him on social media, there’s a good chance he’s doing it to purposely upset you.
Studies on social media jealousy tactics have shown that people who do this want to send a message without actually having to speak it.
They know you’ll see it…
And they know you care enough to react.
4. He Starts Bringing Up Stories About His Exes
Casual conversation about the past is fine every once in a while.
But if he constantly references past girlfriends, flings, or relationships, he may be doing it to make you jealous.
He could say things like:
- “My ex would kill herself if she saw me with you.”
- “I’ve been with some pretty hot girls in my day.”
- “Girls would fight me over back in the day.”
Statements like these plant a mental image of him with other women.
Psychologically, it’s called romantic comparison psychology.
5. He Flirts With Other Girls Around You
This should be an obvious sign.
If a guy treats you any differently around other girls (mainly by being flirtatious), he’s trying to make you jealous.
He may:
- Start complimenting other girls more
- Laugh at their jokes more than yours
- Give other girls his undivided attention
Some guys do this because they want to see how you’ll react when they are flirting with another girl.
It all goes back to jealousy as a relationship test.
6. He Talks About How Busy His Love Life Is
Similar to the above tip, some men talk about how many options they have.
Whether it’s true or not, he could mention stuff like:
- Going on dates left and right
- Meeting new people all the time
- Having a lot of female attention
The reason he brings any of this up is to make you think other girls want to be with him.
I like to call this scarcity attraction in psychology.
7. He Watches Your Reaction
This is a subtle sign, but if he says something about another girl and then immediately locks eyes with you to read your reaction, chances are he’s doing it on purpose.
He will look for:
- Facial expressions
- Your tone of voice changes
- If you ask any questions about the situation
When someone is trying to make you jealous and they bring up another woman, they usually watch your reaction very closely.
It’s related to seeking emotional validation from you.
8. He Brags That Other Girls Want Him
Typically, guys who try to make you jealous brag about the attention they receive from other girls.
He might mention how girls:
- Stare at him in the gym
- Compliment him when he least expects it
- Flirt with him at social functions
Statements like these can be said just for fun. But if he consistently tells you these types of stories, he’s fishing for a reaction.
Psychologists call this ego boosting in relationships.
9. He Mentions Other Girls More When You’re Ignoring Him
Some people like to use jealousy as a tool to get you to pay attention to them.
If he begins talking about other girls more right after you’ve been ignoring him, he is probably trying to trigger that junk in your brain that makes you pay attention when you hear the word “jealous.”
It’s not the classiest of moves, but most of the time, guys do this out of fear of losing your emotional attention.
10. He Contrasts You With Other Girls
One of the sneakier ways guys will bring other girls into conversations is by making comparisons.
He may tell you things like:
- “You’re not like other girls.” ← Listen for compliments that imply other girls have done something stupid.
- “Most girls would do this.”
- “Other girls wouldn’t understand this.”
There’s always a chance his intentions are pure when he says things like this.
But more times than not, he is using comparisons to subtly bring other girls into the conversation.
This psychological game falls under comparison dynamics in relationships.
11. His Behavior Simply Feels Purposeful
This goes back to your intuition.
If his actions feel calculated to try and make you jealous, there’s a very good chance that they are.
You’ll start to feel that:
- He purposely waits for the right time to bring up other girls
- He leans heavily on situations that could make you jealous
- His tone of voice seems extra when he mentions other girls
Once you catch enough of these clues, you’ll start to see his true intentions through his actions.
Conclusion
Jealousy isn’t always somebody trying to make you jealous.
In most cases, people don’t know they’re doing it.
But in some cases, guys will flirt with jealousy to see how you respond.
If he does a few of these things on a regular basis, odds are he’s doing it on purpose.
But keep this in mind…
Most successful relationships are built on trust, stability, and plain ol’ healthy communication.
If a man has to resort to jealousy to gain your attention, he may be insecure about how you feel about him.
There’s always a chance he means well, but only you can decide how you want to handle those types of situations moving forward.
Jealousy is an emotion that can be used as a powerful tool to harm your feelings or test the strength of your love.
But the healthiest relationships are ones that don’t require jealousy in the first place.
FAQ
Why would he do this?
Some men like to create jealousy to see how a woman reacts, play mind games, seek attention, or make themselves feel bigger.
Does making me jealous mean he likes me?
It could mean he likes you, but it’s more common that guys do this out of insecurity or immaturity.
Is it normal for a man to try and make you jealous?
Typically, no. Most dudes don’t think about this stuff when they do it. However, whenever someone purposely tries to make you jealous, it’s not normal.
How do you deal with a man who tries to make you jealous?
The best way to handle someone who tries to make you jealous is to not react and maintain your cool.
If his behavior continues to bug you, communicate that to him.
Can playing jealousy games hurt relationships?
Yes. Playing jealousy games can cause a ton of unnecessary anxiety and insecurity in relationships.
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