Hey there. I know you. You’ve had “the breakup,” and you’re somewhere in that weird limbo zone that says “It’s over… but…”
Trust me, I’ve sat down with women in that exact spot more times than I can remember. You spent weeks, maybe months, building something with this person you thought was “the one,” and then wham. It all comes crashing down, and you don’t know what to do with yourself.
One second, you’re trying to play it cool like you’ve moved on. The next, you’re analyzing every little thing he does or doesn’t do, wondering if he’ll change his mind and come crawling back.
He stopped answering your texts. You haven’t seen him on Instagram lately. He “kind of” said he wasn’t over you when you two broke up.
Guys come back all the time, but not all of them will. So how can you tell if he’s truly over you or if he’s just taking a break?
Don’t waste your time hoping he comes back. Learn how to spot the signs that he will come back!
Instead of hopelessly obsessing over every hissy fit he throws, you need to understand men’s behavior.
When you know what you’re looking for, you stop overanalyzing every text he sends you, and you start to see the signs for what they really are.
These signs aren’t a guarantee that he will come back into your life, but they will tell you for sure if he’s completely done with you emotionally… or if he’s just taking a little space.
Here are 8 tell tale signs he WILL come back:
1. He Still Finds Ways to Stay in Contact
It’s rare that a man who is truly done with you will randomly pop up in your life out of nowhere. If he’s truly trying to distance himself from you, his attempts to contact you will stop cold turkey.
However, if he makes excuses to reach out to you every now and then or randomly checks in on you when he knows you probably don’t want to hear from him, that’s a huge sign that he’ll come back to you.
He may give you a subtle like on Facebook or Instagram. Send you a link that he “thought of you when he saw.” Or send you a text once every two weeks to see how you’re doing.
Whatever it is, if he still goes out of his way to reach out to you, he will come back to you.
When a man holds on to any type of communication with you, it means he still has feelings for you.
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2. He Responds Quickly When You Reach Out
If he still takes the time to reply to your texts in a timely fashion and his responses aren’t short and cold, he will come back to you.
Men who don’t care about a woman will frequently ignore her texts or give blow off answers when she reaches out to them.
When a man has feelings for a woman, he will go out of his way to talk to her, even if he doesn’t initiate the conversation.
It doesn’t matter if he texts you first or not. If he replies back quickly and with detailed responses, he still cares.
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3. He Brings Up the Past in a Positive Way
If your ex wants to remind you about past events that were meaningful to the two of you or talks about inside jokes that only you two know, he WILL come back to you.
When someone is truly done, they don’t want to remember or talk about the good times they had with their ex.
If he starts name dropping and brings up good times that you spent together, he will definitely come back to you.
Men who have feelings for their exes often reminisce about the good times they had.
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4. He Shows Signs of Jealousy or Curiosity About You
If he asks you how your dating life is going, looks upset when you mention other men, or is just super interested in what you’re up to these days, he will come back.
Jealousy is never a good sign, but if he subtly shows signs of jealousy, it means he still has feelings for you.
There’s a big difference between asking someone how their life is going and actually caring about what they say.
Guys who are flirting with you will show interest in your life.
5. He Hasn’t Fully Moved On Himself
This is by far the biggest sign that he WILL come back to you.
If he hasn’t found someone else to date or if he isn’t over you emotionally, chances are he will come back to you because he still wants to be with you.
Once a guy moves on from an ex, he usually doesn’t look back.
If he hasn’t moved on from you, then he will make his way back to you.
Men are complicated when it comes to their emotions. If he’s still hung up on you, he will come back to get you back.
6. He Reaches Out During Emotional Moments
If he only ever contacts you when it’s late at night and you two are having a heart to heart or when he’s feeling sad and down, he will come back.
Men often come back to their ex when they need some comforting or support.
He misses you, even if he doesn’t admit it.
7. He Keeps the Door Open Instead of Closing It
Some men are nice and cut you off completely. They don’t want you to call, text, see, or hear from them anymore.
But if your ex told you that maybe things will work out between the two of you someday or he had to “break up with you because his heart just wasn’t in it,” he will come back to you.
If he left the door open for you to come back into his life, he will take you up on that offer.
Men will sometimes leave the door open for their ex if they think there’s a chance they might take them back.
8. You Feel the Shift in His Energy Over Time
You don’t need to look for signs that he will come back to you if you can feel that he is slowly coming back to you.
Attraction is like a yo yo sometimes. It goes away for a bit, but then it comes back full force.
He needed space from the relationship to figure things out for himself.
Men will often come back when they realize what they’re losing by not being with you.
Conclusion
Picking your brain, trying to figure out if he will want you back, is a great way to torture yourself. But instead of freaking out and overanalyzing every move he makes, try understanding him.
Learn what these signs mean and use them to your advantage. They can help you figure out if he’s just taking a break from you or he’s dumped you for good.
I want you to remember one thing above all else:
Even if he comes back to you, make sure that the relationship will be better than it was before he left.
He may come running back to you tomorrow, but if things aren’t going to work out between the two of you, why even bother?
FAQ
Will my ex boyfriend come back?
It’s possible that he will come back to you, but there are no guarantees.
How long does it take a man to come back to you?
Sometimes it can take months, sometimes it can happen in just a few weeks.
It all depends on him and how he’s feeling about the situation.
Should I wait for him to come back to me?
No! You shouldn’t have to wait for anyone to come back to you. You deserve better than that!
Focus on bettering yourself, and if he comes back, you’ll be happier about it.
What if he is giving me mixed signals?
He’s either trying to confuse you or he really doesn’t know what he wants.
Stay strong and wait for him to make his decision.
Can a relationship work after he comes back?
Of course! As long as you both put in the work to make it work.
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