One day, I was talking to a girl whose eyes kept darting down to her phone every couple of minutes. Trying to be subtle about it, but she wasn’t staring at her phone waiting for a notification from just anyone. She was waiting for HIS notification.
“What are you looking at?” she finally asked me after looking up from her phone.
“Your phone,” I replied.
She sighed and chuckled a bit nervously. “Do you think he’ll come back?”
She didn’t ask it sadly. She didn’t ask it desperately. She just asked it.
Honest.
from my experience as a relationship expert, I’ve come to realize that most people go about this all wrong.
They look to their feelings instead of what they can objectively observe.
When a man WILL come back to you, it’s very rarely spelled out in black and white.
You have to look at his actions, his behavior, and how he reacts to certain situations.
These are the subtle signs that can tip you off to what he’s thinking. If you know what to look for, they’re almost always present.
So if you want to know if this is truly the end of your relationship…
or if it’s only temporary…
8 Subtle Signs That He Will Come Back
1. He Keeps Finding Ways to Text You
Breakups don’t happen right away.
He doesn’t suddenly stop texting you cold turkey.
He sends you random texts. Things he saw that reminded him of you. Checks in on you for no reason that wouldn’t actually require a response.
It may not mean much at first. In fact, it may even throw you off.
But understand this, if he wants to stop contacting you, he will.
Keeping in contact after a breakup is a subtle sign of attachment. He may not want to commit to you fully just yet, but he’s not ready to let you go either.
Read also: 11 Signs He Is Trying to Make You Jealous
2. He’s Still Not Over You
You don’t see him posting with other girls. He’s not Snapchatting every second of his day to new romantic interests.
Sure, he may be talking to other people. Hell, he may even be hanging out with them.
But if you look close enough, there’s no legitimate sign that he’s moved on from you and someone new.
This seems like a small thing. But if he was over you, he wouldn’t think of you at all.
The truth is, most people don’t just move on from someone they like overnight.
There’s a process you go through emotionally when you detach from someone. And if he hasn’t gone through that process, it usually means he wants to get it back together with you.
Read also: 10 Honest Signs He Never Loved You and Was Only Passing Time
3. He Gives You Signs of Regret
Let’s get one thing straight. An apology doesn’t necessarily have to be verbal.
There are plenty of other ways he can show you that he regrets breaking up with you.
The way he talks to you. The way he acts around you. The things he says.
Maybe he brings up old memories. Talks about things he misses about you. Or even just treats you completely differently than he did when you two were fighting.
There’s just something about him that feels softer than it did when you broke up.
This is usually the point where he realizes what he’s lost and his mind starts to change.
Read also: How to Make Him Regret After Breakup (10 Tips)
4. He Still Answers Quick and with Emotion
Notice how he responds when you talk to him.
Does he respond right away? Does he reply with short one word answers?
If he gives you any sort of emotional reaction to your texts, even if it’s anger, or takes the time to reply quickly, take note.
This means he still cares about what you have to say.
When someone stops caring about you, they let their guard come back up. They stop answering right away. Their replies become delayed or cold.
But as long as he’s still reacting with some type of emotion, it means he’s not over you yet.
5. He Checks Up on Your Life
He may not be texting you every hour, but he sure as hell knows what you’ve been up to.
He sees your Snapchat stories. Asks your friends how you’re doing. Looks for other ways to creep on your social media.
Hell, he may even go somewhere to physically see you without you noticing.
I know it sounds crazy, but men do this all the time.
It means he’s still interested. He’s still thinking about you.
If he stopped caring about you, he wouldn’t care if you were dating Jim Carey or not.
But he checks up on you. That means you still matter to him.
6. Your Breakup Was Emotional, NOT Neutral
The way you broke up says A LOT about whether he’ll come back to you or not.
If your breakup was emotional (yelling, screaming, intense drama), there’s a good chance he still has feelings for you.
Why?
Because intense emotions don’t just stop after a breakup.
Typically, they fade over time. And when they do, guys usually come to their senses.
However, if you two ended on a neutral note where no one really gave a f*ck, it’s much harder for him to come back to you.
7. He Doesn’t Give You Closure
There are still things you want to ask him. Conversations you two never finished.
Even he seems lost as to why everything ended how it did.
When people don’t get closure, their mind wants to fix it.
That’s why a lot of men who break up with their girlfriends eventually come back months down the line.
It’s not because they hate being without you (as much).
It’s because something about the breakup felt incomplete.
8. You Can Sense That “It” Isn’t Gone Yet
I can feel it.
It’s something you can’t exactly explain, but you know it when you feel it.
When you talk to him, it doesn’t feel like you two are building a relationship with someone you barely know.
It just feels natural.
You can sense that “it” isn’t gone between the two of you yet.
Although this sign isn’t something you can physically see, it is real.
Our instincts are our brain picking up on subtle clues we aren’t consciously aware of.
If you feel he will come back to you, there’s a good chance that those subtle signs I mentioned earlier are present.
Conclusion
If you recognized multiple signs in this article that he WILL come back to you, then there’s a good chance he will actually come back to you.
But here’s the part where you need to be straight up with yourself:
**A guy can come back to you whenever you want him to.
The question is, do YOU want him back?**
Is anything going to be any different between the two of you?
Or will things be exactly how they were before and you’ll just be back at square one again?
Don’t get me wrong, I hope he comes running back to you.
But what’s more important is, will him coming back fix everything?
Will you actually be happy with him by your side?
Because at the end of the day, that’s all that should matter.
FAQs
How long does it take for a guy to miss you after a breakup?
Every situation is different, but it can take anywhere from a couple of weeks to a few months.
Should I wait for him to come back to me?
Don’t wait for him to decide what you’re going to do with your life. Live your life and let him chase YOU.
What if he doesn’t come back to me?
Life will just open up more room for the right person to come along.
Does the No Contact Rule really work?
It sure as hell can. Guys realize what they have in you when you’re not around to scream at them about every little thing.
How do I know if I should get back together with him?
Actions speak louder than words. You know he’s changed when he shows you he can be accountable for his actions through consistency.
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