“I think my coworker might be attracted to me…”
That was the beginning of a conversation I had with a friend a few months ago.
He kept talking about this woman he worked with.
At first, he assumed she was just being friendly.
They talked occasionally, shared a few laughs, and sometimes discussed random aspects of their lives.
But as time went on, he began to notice subtle signs that things were different.
She would make eye contact for longer than usual. She remembered things he said weeks ago. She would start conversations out of nowhere.
“So, do you think she likes me?”
He asked me that question half-jokingly, but it’s one that many people wonder when they realize someone may be attracted to them.
The problem was that she was married.
Emotions can be complicated. Attraction doesn’t always make sense, and sometimes you become attracted to people when you don’t mean to.
But when a woman realizes that she’s attracted to another person, you’ll typically start to see these 12 signs.
If you know what to look for, you may be able to notice them in the way she acts around you.
12 Honest Signs a Married Woman Is Attracted to You
1. She Looks For Reasons To Talk To You
One of the first signs that someone is attracted to you is if they go out of their way to talk to you.
If a married woman frequently starts conversations with you, it may be a sign that she likes spending time with you.
She may:
- Ask you how your day was
- Talk about something random just to keep talking to you
- Check in on things you previously mentioned
Most people feel more emotionally connected to those they’re attracted to.
If she goes out of her way to find things to talk to you about, she might be developing some emotional feelings for you.
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2. She Makes Strong Eye Contact With You
Eye contact is one of the strongest forms of nonverbal communication.
You can often tell if someone is attracted to you just by looking into their eyes.
If a woman you’re talking to holds eye contact a little longer than normal and/or smiles while looking at you, she may like you.
She could also glance over at you a lot during group conversations.
We tend to do these things because of nonverbal attraction signals we send without even knowing it.
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3. She Laughs At Your Jokes More Than Others
This is another subtle sign that someone may be attracted to you.
If she laughs at all your jokes, even the bad ones, she may be feeling some type of attraction towards you.
This is because most people feel happier when around people they have feelings for.
Many psychologists believe this reaction is due to positive social validation.
4. She Remembers Things You Tell Her
No one remembers everything that everyone tells them.
If a married woman remembers things you said weeks ago, it might mean she’s paying attention to what you say.
This can be little things too, like what you do for fun, something that’s been stressing you out, or an anecdote about your family.
She only remembers this because you two have developed some emotional significance to each other.
5. She Finds Ways To Hang Around You
Attraction will often influence the way people spend their time.
If she routinely finds ways to be near you at work, social gatherings, or even during meetings, she may like you.
Some examples include:
- Sitting near you during group meetings
- Entering into conversations you’re already having
- Showing up to places knowing you’ll be there
She does this because your presence emotionally excites her and she wants to spend more time around you.
6. She Plays Around With You
When attraction is involved, people will often play around when talking to you.
She may tease you or joke around more than usual.
The reason she does this is because playing around is a common flirting technique.
When someone flirts with you, they’re typically feeling some type of attraction towards you.
7. She Gives You Lots of Compliments
It shouldn’t come as a surprise that another one of the signs a woman likes you is if she compliments you.
Whether she comments on your appearance, laugh, or how well you do at work, she’s paying closer attention to you.
Some compliments she may give include:
- Your fashion sense
- How well you work
- Your personality
When someone is giving you a constant flow of compliments, they’re probably attracted to you on some level.
8. She Asks You Questions About Your Life
Along the same lines as her remembering what you tell her, another sign she might be attracted to you is if she asks you personal questions.
Questions she may ask include:
- What are your hobbies?
- What is your relationship status?
- What are some things you like to do?
Asking you these types of questions is one way for her to learn more about you.
When we ask others questions about their personal life, we typically feel some type of emotional attraction towards them.
9. She Changes Her Body Language Around You
Most of the signs above can be considered verbal signs of attraction.
However, you can usually tell if a woman likes you just by paying attention to her body language.
If she leans in while you’re talking to her, mirrors your body language, or seems engaged while you talk, she may be attracted to you.
Examples of body language attraction signs include:
- Leaning in towards you when talking
- Changing her posture as you approach her
- Keeping her body open when you’re talking to her
Our bodies tend to do these things subconsciously when we’re attracted to someone.
10. She Seeks Your Approval
Have you ever talked to someone and suddenly became concerned about what they think of you?
Chances are that person has attracted you in some way.
If a woman wants your approval, it may mean she’s attracted to you.
Examples of seeking your approval include:
- Asking you how you thought she did at work that day
- Appearing happy when you compliment her
- Looking over to you while she’s talking to someone else
She may do these things because she wants your approval and validation.
11. She Appears Nervous Around You
Nervousness and attraction can often go hand in hand.
If she plays off funny around you or even laughs nervously when you’re talking to her, she may like you.
We tend to do these things because we want others to like us but feel some type of nervous energy around that person.
Typically, this type of behavior is due to feeling attracted to someone.
12. She Pays Attention To You More Than Others
This goes back to the beginning of the article. If she constantly pays more attention to you than others, she may be attracted to you.
Paying attention can include things like:
- Making sure she’s listening when you talk
- Responding quickly to your messages
- Being actively engaged in conversations with you
We naturally give more attention to people we feel some type of connection with.
When someone cares about another person, they tend to give that person more of their attention.
Conclusion
Just because a woman is married doesn’t mean she can never experience feelings of attraction towards another person.
Understanding the signs someone may be attracted to you can allow you to better understand your relationships with others.
That being said, just because she may be attracted to you doesn’t always mean you should act on it.
FAQ
Can a married woman be attracted to another man?
Yes. People experience emotions, regardless of if they’re in a relationship or not.
How can you tell the difference between someone just being friendly and being attracted to you?
Being friendly will typically feel light and impartial. Someone who is attracted to you will show more attention, make more eye contact, and naturally interact with you on a more emotional level.
Do married women try to hide when they’re attracted to someone?
Yes, the majority of people do this.
If you know a woman is married, should you pursue her if she seems attracted to you?
Relationships can be complicated. If you know a woman is married, it’s always best to err on the side of caution.
What should you do if you think a married woman is attracted to you?
The best thing you can do is not lead her on. If you know a woman is married, avoid doing anything that would make the situation awkward should your relationship not work out.
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