I was listening to someone speak about marriage the other day. They shared that after many years of marriage, they learned love never fades just because we stop caring about someone. Oftentimes, it just gets buried beneath the chaos of schedules, responsibilities, work, stress, and life.
It really struck a chord with me because they went on to say that they loved their spouse. They loved them more than they had loved anyone else. But along the way, they stopped making the effort to show it.
They assumed their partner knew they loved them.
The problem was knowing your spouse loves you and feeling loved are two totally different experiences.
Love is not all grand moments held together by romance. It’s built through the little choices we make each day. How you speak to your husband, how you treat him, how you notice what he does, and how you make him feel matter.
If you want to learn how to show your husband you love him, it does not always have to mean grand gestures or expensive gifts. Sometimes love is shown in very personal ways. You want to show your husband that you notice him. That you appreciate him. And that you care about who he is.
Here are 5 unique ways to show your husband love that will not only help you understand how to express your love but also allow him to know he matters to you.
5 Unique Ways to Show Your Husband You Love Him
1. Notice the Things He Does That Others Overlook
One of the best ways to show your husband love is to simply notice what he does. Many husbands shoulder responsibilities without anyone noticing.
It can be the little things they do to fix problems, sacrifice for their family, or take care of things without being asked.
When a person goes unnoticed for long enough, they slowly begin to feel like what they do does not matter. Now, this is not to say that your husband needs you to compliment him every five seconds.
But telling your husband that you notice and appreciate what he does can seriously impact how connected to you he feels.
Instead of simply thanking him for doing the obvious things, start to pay attention to some of the little things he does that others might not.
Does he always double check to make sure everything is okay at home before he leaves? Does he work hard to provide for you? Does he help with responsibilities so you can reach your goals? Does he remember little things that would make your day easier?
Tell him. Be specific.
“I love how you always make sure everything is taken care of when I need help.”
“I noticed how much you do for us.”
These types of statements let your husband know that he is appreciated. Feeling appreciated allows your partner to feel emotionally connected to you.
When you make someone feel seen and appreciated for who they are and the things they do, they will remember it.
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2. Support His Dreams and Goals
Love is not all rainbows and sunshine. Sure, it is wonderful to experience life with the person you love, but love is also supporting each other to be the best versions of yourselves.
One way to show your husband you love him is to take an interest in things he cares about.
We all have dreams, goals, passions, interests, and things in our lives we may want to improve. The truth is, life happens and people quit pursuing the things they love because they don’t feel supported or they simply get caught up.
Everyone needs someone in their corner that believes in them.
Talk to him about his goals and dreams. When he tells you about his ideas, really listen. Celebrate with him when he reaches goals and encourage him when he faces challenges. Let him know you believe in him and that you want to see him grow.
This doesn’t mean you have to agree with his every decision. Loving someone also includes having tough conversations and helping them make wise decisions when needed.
A healthy marriage is one where both people feel like they have each other’s backs. Your husband needs to know that you are someone who wants him to succeed.
Remind him that his dreams are important and that you still care about them.
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3. Learn How He Receives Love and Give That to Him
I know plenty of couples who love each other, but they struggle because they both show love differently.
You may think you are showing your husband love in a way that he can understand, but what if he doesn’t feel it that way?
For instance, maybe you show love by doing things for your husband, but he would feel more loved if you spent intentional time with him or if you would simply encourage him with words.
Once you realize your husband experiences love in a different way than you, you can begin to change the way you show love to him.
Start to pay attention to what makes your husband light up.
Does he love when you tell him he’s doing a good job? Does he enjoy sitting and talking with you? Does he respond well to words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch?
Love becomes so much stronger when you stop guessing and simply pay attention.
Instead of only loving your spouse how you like to receive love, learn how your husband feels most loved and give that to him.
Tell him you love him in ways that he will understand. Leave him a meaningful note. Send him a text in the middle of your day to let him know you are thinking of him. Make something he enjoys for dinner. Turn off the TV and spend some quality time with him.
You are not trying to force love or put on a show. Learn how to love your husband how he likes to be loved and it will make your relationship that much stronger.
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4. Protect Your Friendship With Him
Yes, marriage is about romance, but it is also about friendship.
You should feel like your husband is more than your partner in cleaning the dishes. You should feel like you are friends with him too.
In today’s world, people get busy making schedules, paying bills, working, and taking care of family. Before you know it, you forget to simply enjoy each other.
You start to experience a feeling of disconnect even though you both love each other.
Make sure you set aside time to just laugh, talk, and be with each other.
Have conversations with your husband that do not just focus on problems that need to be solved. Ask about his day. Tell him about your day. Look back on old memories that you both enjoy.
Friendship allows both people in the relationship to feel comfortable just being themselves around each other.
Make sure your husband knows that you enjoy his presence. That you like spending time with him whether you are doing something productive or not.
Friendship and quality time builds a strong foundation for your relationship.
5. Speak to Him With Kindness
I cannot stress this enough. How you talk to your husband can be one of the biggest ways you show him you love him or you don’t.
Words are powerful and they can stick with us long after they’re spoken.
How you speak to your husband during both calm and stressful situations can either help you connect with your husband or drive a wedge between you two.
Your marriage will go through disagreements. Love does not mean you will never be upset with your husband.
What it does mean is that you both learn how to handle those situations without ripping each other apart.
If you find yourself getting upset at your husband, focus on the problem, not his character.
Say, “I felt hurt when this happened.” Instead of “You never care about me.”
Communicating in a way that shows you respect your husband when you BOTH disagree is powerful.
Allowing your husband to feel like he can come to you with his thoughts and feelings without automatically being shut down is vital to healthy communication.
Just because you might not see things the same way he does does not give you the right to be mean or intolerant when you speak to him.
Kindness is not selfish and it is not weak.
Conclusion
Showing your husband you love him is not about being “perfect” or having grand romantic gestures all of the time.
The more you love on your husband in the little everyday moments, the better your marriage will be.
When you start to notice what he does, make an effort to listen to him, learn how he feels loved, protect your friendship with him, and speak to him with kindness, you are allowing your husband to feel loved by you.
Your relationship will grow when you both feel seen, heard, and valued by one another.
Your husband may not always need big gestures for you to show him you love him.
Sometimes all he needs is to know that you see him. That you notice and care about what he does. And that you would STILL choose him every day.
Love your husband through words and actions that matter to him. Let small things impact big changes.
If you enjoyed reading this article about showing your husband you love him, check out our article on ways to improve your marriage.
FAQ
What is the best way to show my husband I love him?
The best way is to show your husband love in ways he notices. Continued kindness, attention, and appreciation will mean more to your husband than grand gestures occasionally.
How do I make my husband feel special?
Notice him. Pay attention to what he does. Show interest in what he has to say. Make sure you set aside time to be friends with him.
Do husbands need words of affirmation?
Many do. But every husband is different. Learn how your husband feels most loved and do more of that.
How do I reconnect with my husband emotionally?
Begin to create space to have meaningful conversations, spend quality time with your husband, and ask him questions about his thoughts and feelings.
How can I show my husband love when we’re in a routine?
Stop the routine. Surprise your husband by showing up for him. Plan a fun date or cook his favorite meal. Small things matter.
Can small things really improve my marriage?
Absolutely. Marriages are built through daily choices we make. Choosing to do small things for your husband on a continual basis can lead to major improvements in your marriage.
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