Before getting into personal development and relationships, I read several books about psychology and human connection. I noticed a common thread that I found endlessly fascinating: dreams.
Some books mentioned dreams as “brain fungus” and nothing more. Others said dreams were one of the deepest forms of communication you could experience with someone.
So, can you really show up in someone’s dreams?
No. As mentioned before, dreams are highly personal. Someone’s dreams are ultimately out of your control.
But if there’s one thing I’ve learned from studying both personal growth and dating, it’s this:
Humans tend to dream about things they spend a lot of time thinking about.
Whether it’s a person, idea, problem, or situation, if it occupies your mind and emotions during your waking hours, it can very well creep into your dreams at night.
If you want to show up in someone’s dreams (specifically someone you like!), you don’t want to try to control their dreams. You want to create such an impact that the thought of them stays with you long after the sun goes down.
Let’s dive into some mystical, romantic, and downright intentional methods that many believe can help you out:
10 Dream Rituals to Show Up in Someone’s Dreams
1. Visualize Them Before You Go to Sleep
Dream experts and many manifestation teachers say that right before you fall asleep is an especially potent time for visualization.
Lie in bed with your eyes closed and envision the person. See them smiling at you. Hear the two of you laughing and having a nice conversation. Place yourself inside a happy memory. Visualize calm, love, and good emotions.
Of course, you don’t want to obsess over them. But you can gently hold the intention to connect with them on a spiritual level. Many believe visualization like this creates an energetic impression.
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2. Fall Asleep Thinking Happy Thoughts About Them
Similar to number one, try to fall asleep thinking happy thoughts about them.
Dreams don’t operate on logic. They’re ruled by emotion. So if you fall asleep thinking about how much you want to talk to them or worrying that they don’t like you, you’ll probably have a sad dream.
Instead, think about what you love about them. Allow yourself to feel love and gratitude towards them. Letting yourself feel love versus neediness can go a long way.
Remember: many spiritual practices believe love has more energy than neediness ever will.
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3. Improve Your Aura During the Day
Most people dream about others that have some sort of emotional significance to them.
It could be the person you have a huge crush on. It could be your grandma. Or it could be that cool barista you just met who made you laugh.
Improving your own personal magnetism will make you more memorable. The more you improve your own presence, the more chances your aura will follow them to dreamland.
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4. Write Their Name on Paper Before Bed
Ever heard of this trick?
Grab a piece of paper before bed and write their name. On the next line, write an intention such as “Our energies grow stronger with time” or “Love flows between us effortlessly.”
There’s no need to try to manipulate anyone’s dreams. Instead, write their name down and gently remind yourself why you care about them. It’s all about focusing your intentions and emotions.
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5. Create a Sleeptime Ritual
Rituals have been used for thousands of years as a way to send intentions to the subconscious mind.
You can create your own dream ritual. Light a candle before bed. Play soft music. Say a silent affirmation. Spend 5 minutes visualizing yourself together.
Small actions like these signal to your brain that you’re getting ready to enter a meditative, sleepy state. Building a routine can help you focus your intentions and become more emotionally aware.
6. Send Them Positive Vibes Instead of Pursuing Them
This is a big one that many people learn the hard way.
Trying too hard can actually send the opposite energy you want to send.
Many teachers believe that when you focus too much on someone, you create resistance. The more you pursue them and try to force something, the less natural it will feel.
Send them love and positivity instead. Imagine bathing them in warm light, joy, and peace. Detach from the outcome and focus on your energetic connection.
7. Become Dreamworthy Yourself
Okay, this should sound obvious by now. But it’s true:
You show up in other people’s dreams because they think about you during their waking hours.
They dream about people who made them feel something.
That could mean you inspired them, you challenged them, you made them laugh, or you sparked something inside of them.
Focus on becoming the best version of yourself. Work on your confidence, compassion, creativity, and sense of purpose. A strong soul is magnetic and will leave an impression whether they dream of you or not.
8. Anchor Emotions and Memories with Music
Music is powerful because it’s a great way to anchor emotions and memories.
If you bonded with someone over songs (or even showed them songs that you liked), your subconscious might flash to those songs when it reviews the emotions you felt while listening to them.
This isn’t really mystical. It’s an actual psychological response to human emotion.
But if you don’t believe me, think about how music can instantly change your mood.
9. Trust That the Universe Is Connecting Your Energies
There have been beliefs all throughout history that some people are just “meant to be.”
Think about those moments when you were thinking about a person and suddenly got a message from them.
Or when you dreamed about someone right before you found out they were going through a tough time.
Humans are energetic beings that connect with certain people on a spiritual level.
If you believe in a divine connection, trust that you’re being connected on an invisible level.
10. Allow the Universe to Do the Rest
This is definitely the biggest mystical secret of them all.
Let go and stop trying to “make things happen.”
Visualization, rituals, and journaling are all about planting the seeds of intention and letting life do the rest.
Obsessing about results usually creates more disappointment. Learn to surrender your expectations and enjoy the moment.
This is a big lesson in most spiritual teachings on manifestation. You plant the seed (manifest), water the plant (take action), and let the universe do the rest (release control).
Conclusion
Dreaming about someone has always been a topic of curiosity. We don’t fully understand why we dream what we dream. But if there’s anything I learned about dreams from my psychology background, it’s that you can’t control someone’s dreams.
The best thing you can do is become someone’s dream.
Dream about them. Think about them. Fill your mind with wonderful memories you’ve shared together. Project positive energy towards them, work on becoming dreamworthy yourself, and let the universe handle the rest.
Remember: trying to show up in someone’s dreams takes the focus off you. By building a deep and genuine connection, you’ll show up in their heart, and that will linger longer than any dream.
FAQ
Can you make yourself dream about someone?
You can absolutely influence your own dreams! Wanting to dream about someone is called dream manifestation. Using affirmations, visualization, and journaling are all powerful tools to help you manifest what you want in your sleep.
Do people dream about others that like them?
There’s no way to tell if someone dreams about a certain person. However, if you catch them smiling or nodding off while looking at their phone, it might be a sign.
Why do people keep dreaming about the same person?
Human minds tend to replay thoughts, emotions, and memories that we can’t stop thinking about. If someone is on your mind a lot, you’ll probably dream about them.
Will they dream about me if I think about them?
There’s no guarantee, but there is a good chance they will. Again, dreaming is rooted in emotion. If you spend a lot of time thinking about them during the day, your subconscious will likely catch on.
What happens if two soulmates dream about each other?
Who knows? That’s the beautiful thing about spirituality. You get to decide what your spiritual dreams mean to you!
Is dreaming about someone romantic?
Dreaming about someone can be romantic if you build an emotional connection. They could dream about you because they like you, are curious about you, want to resolve feelings for you, or find you attractive.
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