I was talking to a friend about his recent breakup. He was telling me how he thought he moved on.
Except he kept bringing up his ex throughout the entire conversation.
“She texted me yesterday…”
“She still likes my Instagram posts sometimes…”
“I don’t know… She randomly checks up on me, and I don’t even know why she does that.”
Realization hit me right then and there.
Just because two people break up doesn’t mean they stopped having feelings for each other.
It happens more often than you think.
The relationship might be over, but the emotions are still there.
After watching my friend struggle to move on, I wanted to teach others about the signs your ex still loves you.
If you have questions like:
- Does my ex still care about me?
- How do you know if your ex still has feelings for you?
- How do you know if your ex secretly wants you back?
You’re in the right place. Let’s dig into some subtle signs that mean your ex may still have strong feelings for you.
10 Signs Your Ex Still Loves You
1. They Make Excuses to Talk to You
One of the first signs your ex still loves you is when they always find an excuse to talk to you.
Do they text you for no reason?
Do they send you memes because they remind them of you?
Do they ask you questions that they can Google?
All of these things may seem insignificant at first.
But if your ex was ever mad at you or hurt by your actions, they wouldn’t go out of their way to talk to you.
Unless they still care.
There’s a reason some exes choose to still be friends. They want to maintain that emotional connection after a breakup.
Read also: 8 Steps to Bring Back Your Ex-Boyfriend
2. They Still Care About What You Do
The second sign your ex still loves you is when they take interest in your daily life.
Things like:
- watching all your Snapchat stories
- liking your Instagram posts
- commenting on your tweets
- asking your friends about you
If your ex cares about what you’re doing, they’re going to ask about it.
Once someone falls out of love with you, they really don’t care what you do with your life.
If your ex checks up on you frequently, they may still have feelings for you.
Read also: 12 Honest Signs Your Ex Has Moved On After the Breakup
3. They Bring Up Old Memories
Another sign that your ex still loves you is when they constantly remind you of old memories.
“I miss hanging out with you.”
“I can’t believe we used to do that.”
“Oh hey, that reminds me of that one time…”
Don’t lie to yourself. They probably wouldn’t say these things if they didn’t feel something for you.
Chances are your ex brings up old memories because they want to relive them with you.
Our memories tend to bring us back to people who we have strong emotional feelings for.
4. They Get Jealous Easily
If your ex gets jealous every time you mention another girl, that’s a sign.
The green-eyed monster can be tough to hide.
You’ll notice it usually comes out in ways they don’t mean, such as:
- giving you the silent treatment
- making passive-aggressive comments
- asking too many questions
Don’t ignore the jealousy.
Just because they aren’t upfront about it doesn’t mean they aren’t feeling jealous on the inside.
Jealousy is a major sign your ex secretly wants you back.
5. They Haven’t Started Seeing Anyone Else
Okay, this is a tricky sign.
Just because your ex isn’t seeing someone doesn’t necessarily mean they love you.
Some people just take longer to get over their ex than others.
You may notice they:
- haven’t started dating anyone
- compare everyone to you
- don’t trust anyone new
If your ex falls into all of these categories, there’s a good chance they still have feelings for you.
But if they only fall under one or two, they might just take longer to heal than most.
Either way, it hurts your relationship when you don’t give exes enough time to recover from heartbreak.
6. They Apologize for Mistreating You
We all know someone who has apologized after a breakup.
Whether it be through text or in person, your ex might reach out to apologize for:
- hurting your feelings
- saying something they didn’t mean
- not treating you better
When someone apologizes, it shows they have been reflecting on what happened.
And if they’ve been thinking about what happened, there’s a good chance they care about the relationship you two had.
Someone who apologizes after a breakup is probably wanting to fix broken trust in relationships.
7. They Are Nervous or Emotional Around You
This may seem like a weird sign.
But your body language can tell you if your ex still cares about you or not.
When you run into your ex, do they:
- avoid eye contact
- act differently around you
- suddenly become shy
If you answered yes to any of the above, your ex might have strong feelings for you.
All of these body language signals are due to emotional attachment.
They feel nervous or shy because they’re scared to ruin the friendship that you two have.
8. They’re Always There to Help You
One of the biggest signs that your ex still cares about you is if they help you whenever you’re in need.
Whether you’re going through a tough breakup with someone else or just had a bad day, your ex is there to help you.
This shows that they still want what is best for you.
If your ex falls under this category, they may still be emotionally invested in you.
9. They Remind You Why You Guys Were Special
Here is the perfect example of what I was talking about earlier.
Your ex might say things like:
- We were special.
- I haven’t met anyone like you.
- I know we wouldn’t have broken up if it wasn’t ______.
If your ex tells you things like this, they are probably still hung up on your relationship.
Statements like this only mean that your ex is trying to reflect on what your relationship meant.
10. Your Gut Feeling Says They Do
This may be the biggest sign of them all.
Sometimes your instincts tell you something that you can’t explain with words.
It may be the way they look at you or how long it takes them to reply to your messages.
Trust your gut feeling if you think your ex still has feelings for you.
But don’t only rely on your emotions.
Make sure other signs that they want you back apply to your situation as well.
Conclusion
Sometimes people have to go their separate ways to realize they still have feelings for each other.
If you find that your ex does a few of these signs, there’s a chance they may still love you.
But just because they have feelings for you doesn’t mean you should automatically get back together.
The most important thing is that you do what makes you happy and what’s best for your emotional wellbeing.
Whether that means getting back together or continuing to grow apart.
FAQ
What are some signs your ex still loves you?
Some signs include constantly making excuses to contact you, bringing up old memories, and asking about your life.
Will my ex come back to me if they still love me?
They might come back to you if they feel like the breakup was unfair or too soon. But that also depends on the situation.
How long does it take to know your ex still loves you?
Everyone is different! Some people may realize within a couple of weeks, and others may take years to understand their emotions.
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