Walk Away From A Guy Who Does These 7 Things

I was listening to a friend one night who was complaining about his girlfriend dumping him.

He said she “overreacted” and ended things for no good reason.

Here’s the thing: by the time he finished telling me what happened, I knew he was full of crap.

He wouldn’t respond to her texts for days at a time. He flirted with other girls “as a joke.” He made rude comments about her looks when she got upset. And whenever she confronted him about it, he accused her of being “too sensitive.”

He sat back in his chair and sighed. “I don’t know why she broke up with me.”

Trust me, I did.

See, some people have no idea how their actions make others feel. And women are more tolerant than you think.

They’ll excuse crappy behavior and wait around hoping you’ll change. You tell yourself he’s just stressed from work. Maybe you misinterpreted what he said. If you just love him more, he’ll treat you better.

But let’s be honest: some actions have no excuse.

They’re red flags.

And if you allow them to continue long enough, they’ll eat away at your self-confidence, your happiness, and your sanity.

If you want a real relationship with REAL love, you need to know when someone is showing you their TRUE colors. And when certain behaviors crop up, the best thing you can do is walk away.

7 things he does that mean you should RUN IN THE OTHER DIRECTION.

1. He Only Contacts You When He Needs Something

You might notice this early on and think, “Oh, he’s just really busy.”

Sure. He could be working two jobs. He could have school. He could have kids he has to take care of.

But after a while, you’ll start to notice a trend.

He only contacts you when he wants something.

You may go DAYS without hearing from him, and then all of a sudden he’s there when he needs some sex, company, or attention. As soon as he gets what he wants from you, he goes MIA again.

This isn’t a relationship. This is convenience.

In a healthy relationship, two people make each other a priority. If you constantly feel like you have to wait around for him to care about you emotionally, the scale is tipped too far in his favor.

When someone loves you, they don’t treat you like a hobby they’re only involved with when they feel like it.

You deserve consistency. You don’t deserve whatever leftovers he decides to give you.

2. He Makes You Feel Like You’re Crazy

Gently suggesting you might be oversensitive every now and then is not gaslighting.

But if he routinely makes you question your own feelings whenever you try to talk to him, that’s a form of manipulation.

You try to tell him how you feel about something he did, and he’ll twist it around to make you feel crazy.

You’re “too dramatic.”
You’re “too emotional.”
You “always blow things out of proportion.”

This is called gaslighting in relationships, and it’s designed to make you doubt yourself.

If he does this repeatedly, he’ll start chipping away at your self-confidence until you begin to believe what he’s saying.

Let me reassure you: there is nothing wrong with you for having feelings in a relationship.

If he refuses to listen to you without making you feel like you’re overreacting, he’s not trying to understand you—he’s trying to control the narrative.

Let him go.

3. He Disrespects You (Even If He Says He Doesn’t Mean It)

Disrespect doesn’t always come in the form of him yelling at you or telling you that you’re ugly.

Sometimes it’s the little things he does to chip away at your confidence:

He makes jokes at your expense that really aren’t funny.
He interrupts you when you try to speak.
He disregards your aspirations or dreams.
He belittles you when you disagree with him.

Little things, sure. But when you add them all up, they equal a total lack of respect.

You can have the strongest love for someone, but if they constantly disrespect you, it’ll eat away at the foundation your relationship is built on.

You deserve someone who respects you, plain and simple.

And allow me to save you some time: dudes don’t magically start respecting you after they’ve insulted you for months on end.

Chances are, it’ll just keep happening (and potentially get worse).

4. He Won’t Commit but Wants You to Move In Slow

This is extremely common.

He loves hanging out with you.
He loves being intimate with you.
He loves having you to himself.
He loves talking to you and having you listen to him.

But when you bring up commitment, he suddenly gets nervous.

He’ll make excuses like:

“Why do we need to label everything?”
“I just like taking things slow.”
“I don’t want to rush into anything.”

BUT for some reason, it’s totally okay with him if YOU take things slow.

Boy meets girl. Girl falls in love. Girl wants to build something, but boy only wants to “see where things go.”

If you find yourself in relationship purgatory, take notice.

If he really wanted to be with you, he wouldn’t hesitate to say those three little words (or, at least, act like he wants to be with you).

Ambiguity isn’t a sign of love. Avoidance means he’s probably just not that into you.

5. He Doesn’t Want You to Grow or Change

Couple goals include supporting each other through life.

If he doesn’t like who you are right now, he shouldn’t be with you, period.

But some guys will love you, accept you, and tell you how amazing you are… right up until you start to become successful or you reach a goal you’ve been working toward.

When you start making changes to become the best version of yourself, you might notice him:

Acting jealous of your accomplishments
Acting insecure when you talk about your success
Ghosting you when things are going well for you
Punishing you when you focus on yourself

This doesn’t mean he’s insecure—it means he’s disrespectful.

You are allowed to grow and become a better person while in a relationship.

If the person you’re with can’t accept that, they will hinder your personal growth.

You deserve someone who will be happy for you when you succeed, not someone who needs you to stay the same so they can feel better about themselves.

6. He Lied to You or Hidden Things in the Past

Do not allow someone to lie to you or sweep things under the rug.

Once someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Small lies might turn into big lies.

Maybe at first he lies about little things, like why he didn’t reply to your text or where he was after work one night.

Then, as you get closer, the lies get bigger.

Things don’t add up. He double-books plans with you. Your gut tells you something is off.

He’ll lie about a lot of small stuff before he lies to you about something big.

When this happens enough, you start to feel emotionally drained because you’re always on high alert.

Trying to figure out what’s true and what’s lies will destroy any semblance of trust you two had.

You cannot have a healthy relationship without trust.

When someone shows you they’re incapable of being honest with you, accept it and kick them to the curb.

7. You Feel Drained After Spending Time With Him

I cannot stress this enough.

How you feel after you spend time with your significant other matters.

Do you feel secure and loved?

Or do you feel confused, tense, and anxious?

Toxic relationships make you feel drained because you’re always trying to “fix” something that doesn’t need to be fixed.

You may find yourself:

Stressing about stupid things
Questioning every text he sends
Playing goalie, waiting for him to slam the next door you open
Trying to “prove” you’re good enough for him

If you feel like you constantly have to talk in circles just to maintain your relationship, that’s a huge red flag.

Love shouldn’t make you question your self-worth or stress you out.

If you ever feel like your sanity is at risk because you love someone, it’s time to walk away.

Your MENTAL HEALTH is not something you should compromise for anyone.

Final Thoughts

Leaving someone you care about isn’t easy.

Love makes you stupid.

There will be times where you second-guess every decision you make because you don’t want to lose them.

You think about all the good times and how you can fight through the bad.

But let me save you some time:

Humans are creatures of habit.

You will quickly know whether someone cares about you by how they treat you on a consistent basis.

If he belittles you, lies to you, avoids commitment, and takes you for granted on a regular basis, CHEATER’S HIGH doesn’t make those bad qualities disappear—it amplifies them.

There is nothing wrong with walking away from someone who doesn’t respect you.

You’re not giving up by leaving a loser—you’re allowing yourself to find someone who will treat you right.

And believe me, you deserve someone who will.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do you know when to walk away from a relationship?
Truthfully, there’s no magic formula. But if your relationship causes you more pain than joy, involves disrespect on a regular basis, or consists of patterns that don’t improve no matter how hard you try, it might be time to walk away.

Will a man change his toxic ways if I stay with him?
He can, but will he? If someone refuses to take accountability for their mistakes, they probably won’t change. But if he wants to better himself for you, he will do the work required to improve.

Why do people stay in relationships they know are bad for them?
Sometimes they fall in love too fast and become attached before the red flags crop up. Other times, they know it’s bad for them but they want someone badly enough that they settle.

Isn’t it selfish to walk away from someone you love?
No! Taking care of your mental and emotional well-being is not selfish at all. If someone doesn’t love and respect you like you deserve, letting them go is the best thing you can do for yourself.

How do I gain my confidence back after being with a narcissist?
Surround yourself with positive people who care about you. Focus on your goals and spend time bettering yourself. Work on rebuilding your self-worth by doing things that remind you of how awesome you are.

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