There was a time when I thought that life needed to be hard. Wake up, grind, be stressed, sleep, repeat. Stress about money. Stress about all the fun things you can’t do. Realize every single day that you’re running a race that you’ll never win.
But then I started seeing people who lived differently. They went with the flow. Things just seemed easy for them. They weren’t lazy. They had direction, motivation, and balance. More than anything, they seemed present and really enjoyed life. I knew I had to figure out what they were doing differently.
And that’s when I learned about a soft life.
Life doesn’t need to be hard. You can have comfort, ease, happiness, and intentionality all while working towards your goals. You just have to work smarter, not necessarily harder. You have to know how to truly enjoy the little things. If you want to slow down, live stress-free, and enjoy each and every day, follow these 8 tips on how to create a soft life.
How to Create a Soft Life: 8 Tips
1. Prioritize Your Time
Life will not become easier if you continue to waste your time. Time is your most valuable asset, so if you spend it foolishly on things that don’t matter or bring you down, you will never feel happy.
The first step to a soft life is prioritization. What matters to you? What adds value to your life? Write down things that make you happy or contribute to your long-term goals. Now, whatever does not fall into these categories — delete it, put it off, or ask someone else to do it.
Try scheduling your day so you have time blocked off for work, rest, hobbies, and socializing. Even if you can only squeeze in 30 minutes of intentional “me-time,” take it. You have to be intentional with your days. Don’t let life happen to you — design it.
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2. Set Boundaries
One of the best ways to live hard is to always say yes. Say yes to things you don’t want to do, yes to hanging out when you need rest, and yes to people who stress you out.
If you want a soft life, you have to guard your energy like hell. Learn to say no. It’s okay to cancel plans, skip volunteering, or avoid people who suck your energy. Setting boundaries is not selfish — it’s self-care.
Put boundaries in place with your friends, family, partner, or job. Tell them when you’re available or unable to communicate. If you need time alone in the evenings, say that. With time, these boundaries will allow you to create a life you feel safe and comfortable in.
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3. Create a Comfortable Environment
Your environment can either help you or hurt you. When your home is cluttered and messy, you feel stressed. But when your home is clean and everything you need is easy to reach, you feel at ease.
Declutter your home (or at least the space you spend most of your time in). Get rid of anything you don’t use or that no longer sparks joy. Add comforting items that help you relax after a long day: plants, candles, blankets, artwork, whatever you love.
Make your environment a happier place by allowing the sun in, lighting a candle, or organizing your space. Your everyday life will feel softer when you’re comfortable where you spend most of your time.
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4. Work Towards Financial Ease
Worrying about money can really suck the fun out of life. You can do all of the other things on this list, but if you’re constantly worrying about money, you’ll never feel at ease.
Work towards financial ease by creating an emergency fund that makes you feel secure. Look at your spending habits and where you can trim the fat. Are you buying things to show off to others or improve your life? Spend money on experiences, self-care, and things you need. Avoid debt when possible and invest in the things that improve your life (like a class or wellness program).
Financial ease doesn’t mean being rich. It means you have enough money that you can make decisions without feeling stressed out of your mind.
5. Focus on Your Relationships
You do not have to live a soft life by yourself. The people around you play a huge role in how you feel every day. If you’re surrounded by negative people, your days will be filled with negativity.
Surround yourself with positive, loving, and supportive people. Hang out with friends who make you feel good about yourself and encourage you to chase your dreams. Tell your loved ones how you feel instead of expecting them to know. Distance yourself from toxic friends and family members who drain you.
Having strong, healthy relationships is crucial to living a soft life.
6. Practice Self-Care
Self-care is essential if you want your life to feel easy. Self-care is any habit you practice to allow you to show up emotionally, physically, and mentally day after day.
Take time out of your day to do something that makes you feel good. Read a book, take a bath, journal, meditate, or go for a run. Listen to your body by eating healthy foods, sleeping eight hours a night, and taking breaks when you need them.
The more you practice self-care, the easier you’ll be able to show up for the other areas of your life. You’ll also be sending yourself the message that you are worthy of good things.
7. Simplify
simplify your life. Simplifying your life doesn’t mean living with less stuff. It means deleting the unnecessary parts of your life so you can focus on what you love.
What commitments can you delegate or postpone? What items in your home cause you stress? You can even simplify your digital life by unsubscribing from emails, organizing your photos, and deleting unused apps.
Life will feel so much easier when you don’t have to think about the complicated things every single day.
8. Be Thankful and Present
When you cultivate mindfulness and gratitude, life becomes easier. You start to appreciate what you have instead of always wanting more.
Each morning, think of 3 things you’re grateful for before you start your day. Be present for every task you do, whether it’s eating breakfast or working on a project. Enjoy the little things and pat yourself on the back for accomplishments, big or small.
The more you practice mindfulness and gratitude, the easier it will be to be present during every moment of your day. Suddenly life isn’t about rushing to the next big thing. You learn to appreciate every moment.
Final Thoughts
Living a soft life is possible for everyone. You just have to be intentional with how you spend your time, who you allow into your life, and how you care for yourself. Make sure you’re setting goals that align with your priorities and don’t stress about the small stuff. Replace your negative habits with healthier ones and allow yourself to relax once in a while. Your life will feel calmer and softer than ever before.
FAQs
Q: Doesn’t living a soft life mean you’re lazy and avoid things you don’t want to do?
A: Not at all. It means you’re taking care of your energy, time, and prioritizing what matters most so you can enjoy life.
Q: How long will it take before I start living a soft life?
A: You’ll notice small changes right away if you start using these tips. But creating habits and a softer life will take time (weeks and even months).
Q: Do I have to make a lot of money to live a soft life?
A: No, money does not equal a soft life. Soft life is all about your mindset, decisions, and habits you practice. Whether you make $30,000 a year or $300,000, you can create small changes to soften your life.
Q: Can I have a soft life if I have goals I’m working towards?
A: Absolutely! Those who live soft lives still work hard—they just work smart. Take care of your energy, avoid stressing about things you can’t control, and take breaks when you need them.
Q: What is something I can do today to live a soft life?
A: Look at your current situation and identify what causes you stress. Once you find a few areas that you think you can improve on, make small changes. You don’t have to change everything at once. Start with one or two things and go from there.
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