I used to think strong relationships were mainly about love, loyalty, or “trying harder.” But over time, I realized something simpler (and more powerful): the healthiest relationships are built on understanding.
Building strong and healthy relationships is one of the most important things you can do in life. Whether it’s with family, friends, classmates, coworkers, or a romantic partner, understanding the people around you helps you connect on a deeper level, communicate better, and handle conflict with less stress.
Still, being understanding isn’t always easy—especially when you don’t agree with someone or when emotions are high. It takes practice, but the rewards are worth it.
In this post, you’ll learn practical ways to become more understanding in your relationships and how that understanding can help you build stronger emotional connections with the people you care about.
9 Ways to Be More Understanding and Improve Relationships
1) Practice Active Listening
Active listening is one of the easiest ways to show someone you care—and one of the fastest ways to improve your relationships. It’s more than hearing words. It means you’re fully present and focused on what the other person is trying to communicate.
To listen actively, reduce distractions (put your phone away, pause what you’re doing) and give the person your attention.
Use both verbal and non-verbal cues:
- Ask open-ended questions like, “What happened next?” or “How did that make you feel?”
- Paraphrase to confirm understanding: “So what you’re saying is…”
- Maintain eye contact and keep an open posture
Also, give simple feedback that shows you’re following along—phrases like “I understand,” “That makes sense,” or “I hear you” can make someone feel safe enough to open up. When people feel heard, they communicate more honestly, and that strengthens your bond.
Related: How to Develop Active Listening Skills
2) Use Open Communication (Even When It’s Uncomfortable)
Open communication is the backbone of any strong relationship. When you feel safe to express your thoughts, needs, and emotions, trust grows. When you hide how you feel, misunderstanding and resentment often build quietly.
Honesty matters here—not harsh honesty, but clear and respectful honesty. Speak up before small issues become big ones.
A helpful approach is:
- Say what you feel without blaming: “I felt hurt when…”
- Say what you need: “I need more support with…”
This kind of communication helps you stay connected, even during disagreements.
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3) Cultivate Patience and Tolerance
Patience and tolerance help you stay understanding when people act differently than you would. If you expect everyone to think like you, frustration will always follow. But when you accept differences, conversations become calmer and relationships feel safer.
Mindfulness is one great way to build patience. It helps you notice when you’re getting triggered so you can respond thoughtfully instead of reacting quickly. Simple practices like deep breathing, pausing before replying, or taking a short break can help.
Another powerful tool is reframing. When you disagree with someone, try asking yourself:
- “What might they be feeling underneath this?”
- “Is there a reason this matters to them?”
When you get curious instead of defensive, you become easier to talk to—and more understanding.
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4) Build Trust Through Reliability
Trust is the foundation of healthy relationships, and reliability is one of the quickest ways to build it. People feel safe with you when your actions match your words.
A big part of reliability is keeping promises. Before you commit, be honest about what you can actually do. If you consistently say yes and fail to follow through, trust weakens.
Also, show up during difficult times. Being present when someone is struggling proves that you value the relationship. Even small support—checking in, listening, offering help—can strengthen trust over time.
Consistency matters too. When people know what to expect from you, they feel more secure around you.
5) Recognize and Value Individual Differences
Understanding improves when you accept that people are wired differently. Everyone has unique personalities, experiences, cultures, and communication styles. When you recognize this, you stop taking everything personally and start responding with more awareness.
You can learn a lot by paying attention to differences like:
- Some people process emotions out loud; others need time alone
- Some prefer direct communication; others are more indirect
- Some handle conflict quickly; others need time to calm down first
Culture also shapes how people express respect, love, or even disagreement. When you approach differences with curiosity instead of judgment, relationships become more peaceful and more meaningful.
6) Practice Forgiveness and Letting Go
Holding grudges creates emotional distance. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was okay—it means you’re choosing not to carry the weight of it forever.
To begin letting go, start here:
- Acknowledge what hurt you (don’t pretend it didn’t matter)
- Express it in a healthy way (journaling, talking to someone trusted, or having a calm conversation)
- Decide what boundary or change you need going forward
Forgiveness is often a process, not a one-time decision. But the more you practice it, the more freedom and peace you create for yourself—and the healthier your relationships become.
7) Engage in Shared Experiences
Shared experiences build connection in a natural way. When you spend quality time together, you create memories, strengthen trust, and learn more about each other without forcing deep conversations.
You can build shared experiences by:
- Doing hobbies together
- Taking walks, cooking, or watching something you both enjoy
- Joining group activities like sports, workshops, or volunteering
Shared challenges and wins create closeness. The more positive time you spend together, the easier communication becomes.
8) Continuously Nurture the Relationship
Strong relationships don’t stay strong automatically—they need consistent care. This doesn’t mean constant communication, but it does mean regular effort.
A simple habit that helps is check-ins. A quick text, a call, or a short visit can remind people that you value them.
Also, be proactive when there’s tension. Avoiding conflict doesn’t protect relationships—it often weakens them. When issues come up, address them early with respect and willingness to understand the other person’s view.
9) Learn to Validate Feelings (Even When You Disagree)
One of the most underrated ways to be more understanding is learning to validate someone’s feelings. Validation doesn’t mean you agree with their actions or opinions. It simply means you acknowledge what they feel is real to them.
You can validate by saying things like:
- “I can see why that upset you.”
- “That sounds really frustrating.”
- “I understand why you feel that way.”
When you validate people, they feel emotionally safe with you—and that safety strengthens the relationship more than winning arguments ever will.
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