150 Questions to Get to Know Someone

Getting to know someone takes time, but questions can help break the silence and open up real conversations. Whether you’re meeting someone for the first time, trying to bond with a friend, or looking to connect more deeply with a partner or family member, asking the right questions can bring you closer. It helps you understand their thoughts, dreams, past experiences, and how they see the world.

This guide will give you 150 questions you can use to get to know someone better. These questions are not meant to be asked all at once. Think of them as tools you can use over time. You can ask them during a walk, over dinner, or even through texts. You can pick the ones that feel natural in the moment. Some are fun and light. Others are deep and thoughtful.

There are no rules. The goal is connection. Listen to the answers. Ask follow-up questions if something catches your interest. That’s how you turn small talk into something meaningful.

Part 1: Childhood and Growing Up

1. What is your happiest memory from childhood?

2. Did you have a favorite toy or game growing up?

3. What kind of student were you in school?

4. Who was your childhood hero?

5. What was your favorite cartoon or show as a kid?

6. Did you grow up in a small town or a big city?

7. What was your favorite subject in school?

8. Did you have a best friend when you were young?

9. What was something you were afraid of as a child?

10. Did you ever get in trouble at school?

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Part 2: Personality and Preferences

11. Are you more of an introvert or extrovert?

12. What do you enjoy doing when you’re alone?

13. How do you handle stress?

14. What’s your favorite way to relax?

15. Do you like trying new things or prefer routines?

16. What makes you feel the most alive?

17. What’s one habit you’re proud of?

18. What’s a bad habit you’re trying to break?

19. Do you like surprises or do they make you nervous?

20. What’s your love language?

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Part 3: Family and Relationships

21. Are you close with your family?

22. What did your parents teach you about love?

23. Do you have siblings? What’s your relationship with them like?

24. What’s your favorite family tradition?

25. What kind of parent would you like to be (or are you)?

26. How do you usually show love to people you care about?

27. What’s the best advice someone in your family ever gave you?

28. Do you believe in unconditional love?

29. How do you handle conflict in relationships?

30. What do you look for in a friendship?

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Part 4: Hobbies and Interests

31. What do you love doing in your free time?

32. Is there a hobby you’ve always wanted to try?

33. What kind of books do you enjoy reading?

34. What’s your favorite type of music?

35. Do you like movies or TV shows better?

36. What’s your favorite movie of all time?

37. Are you more into sports, arts, or something else?

38. What’s something creative you enjoy doing?

39. If you could learn any skill instantly, what would it be?

40. How do you usually spend your weekends?

Part 5: Goals and Dreams

41. What’s one dream you’ve never let go of?

42. Where do you see yourself in five years?

43. Do you believe in setting long-term goals?

44. What motivates you when things get hard?

45. What’s something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t yet?

46. If money was not an issue, what would you be doing right now?

47. Do you think you’re living your purpose?

48. What does success mean to you?

49. Have your dreams changed over time?

50. Who inspires you the most in life?

Part 6: Beliefs and Values

51. What do you believe makes a good person?

52. Do you think people are mostly good or bad?

53. What values matter the most to you?

54. Do you believe in fate or free will?

55. Is honesty always the best policy?

56. Do you believe in second chances?

57. What’s one principle you try to live by every day?

58. What does forgiveness mean to you?

59. What makes a life meaningful?

60. Do you believe people can really change?

Part 7: Work and Career

61. What was your first job?

62. What do you do for work now?

63. Do you enjoy your job?

64. What’s your dream job?

65. Have you ever thought of starting your own business?

66. What’s the best job you’ve ever had?

67. What’s something you learned from a bad job?

68. What’s the hardest part of your work life?

69. Do you care more about money or fulfillment in your career?

70. What motivates you to keep going on hard days?

Part 8: Travel and Adventure

71. Have you ever traveled outside your country?

72. What’s your favorite place you’ve ever visited?

73. Is there a city or country you dream of visiting?

74. Do you prefer the mountains, the beach, or the city?

75. Would you rather travel alone or with someone?

76. What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve done?

77. Are you more of a planner or do you like to be spontaneous?

78. What’s one travel memory that stayed with you?

79. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?

80. Do you prefer short trips or long vacations?

Part 9: Daily Life and Habits

81. What time do you usually wake up?

82. Do you have a morning routine?

83. What’s your favorite meal of the day?

84. Are you more productive during the day or night?

85. How do you usually end your day?

86. What’s one habit you never skip?

87. Do you use a to-do list?

88. How do you stay organized?

89. What helps you feel focused?

90. What’s something simple that always improves your mood?

Part 10: Emotions and Inner Life

91. What usually cheers you up when you’re sad?

92. Do you cry easily or rarely?

93. What’s something that recently made you really happy?

94. What’s something that often makes you feel anxious?

95. How do you handle disappointment?

96. When was the last time you felt proud of yourself?

97. Do you find it easy to talk about your feelings?

98. What do you need when you’re feeling low?

99. How do you deal with anger?

100. What emotion do you feel the most often?

Part 11: Life Lessons and Experiences

101. What’s the most important lesson life has taught you?

102. Have you ever had a moment that changed your life?

103. What’s something you’ve learned the hard way?

104. Is there a mistake you’re grateful for now?

105. What do you wish you knew 10 years ago?

106. How do you bounce back from failure?

107. Who has made the biggest impact on your life?

108. What’s one thing you’ll never forget?

109. Do you believe everything happens for a reason?

110. How do you measure personal growth?

Part 12: Love and Dating

111. What’s your idea of a perfect date?

112. What qualities do you look for in a partner?

113. Have you ever been in love?

114. What does commitment mean to you?

115. Do you believe in soulmates?

116. What’s your favorite thing about being in a relationship?

117. What do you struggle with the most in relationships?

118. How do you show affection?

119. What’s the best love advice you’ve received?

120. What’s a red flag you watch out for in relationships?

Part 13: Random and Fun

121. If you could have dinner with any famous person, who would it be?

122. What’s your favorite holiday?

123. If you won the lottery, what’s the first thing you’d do?

124. Do you believe in luck?

125. What’s your favorite food you could eat every day?

126. What’s your biggest guilty pleasure?

127. If you had a superpower, what would it be?

128. What’s one thing you’d never do, no matter what?

129. What’s something most people don’t know about you?

130. If you could live in any time period, when would it be?

Part 14: Reflections and Deep Questions

131. What does happiness mean to you?

132. What are you most grateful for in life?

133. What’s one thing you want people to remember about you?

134. Do you believe in life after death?

135. What’s something you’ve never said out loud but always wanted to?

136. How do you want to grow in the next year?

137. What do you fear the most in life?

138. Do you feel like you’re living fully?

139. What’s something you regret not doing?

140. What advice would you give your younger self?

Part 15: Final 10 to Truly Connect

141. What makes you feel truly seen?

142. What kind of moments make you feel at peace?

143. Who in your life knows you best?

144. What’s something you’re still healing from?

145. What helps you feel grounded during hard times?

146. What makes you feel loved?

147. What’s one thing you wish more people understood about you?

148. What’s something you want to be remembered for?

149. What does vulnerability mean to you?

150. What’s one thing you hope to experience before you die?

Final Thoughts

These questions are not about testing someone. They are about opening the door to honesty, warmth, and real connection. You don’t need to rush through them. Choose the right moment. Ask with care. Listen with your full attention. And share your own answers, too. That’s how trust is built.

Sometimes, one good question is all it takes to unlock a whole new side of someone. And in a world where many people feel unseen or misunderstood, asking and listening is a true gift.

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