A few months ago, I spoke to a friend about relationships.
She was complaining about how this guy she liked wasn’t giving her any attention.
“It’s not fair. I look at him all the time, but he isn’t looking back!”
I told her, “If you want HIM to see your value and pursue you, you have to make HIM beg for attention.”
That really stuck with me because girls all say that to themselves.
I know I did throughout the years.
But what no one tells you is that it’s not some evil cat-and-mouse game trying to make him want you.
It’s quite the opposite.
Self-confidence, strong boundaries, showing your value, and flirting and teasing just enough where he wants more.
Here are 15 ways you can make him beg for your attention that any man can confirm work.
1. Take Care Of Yourself First
Men love a woman who has her own life outside of them.
It’s easy to get clingy and expect him to want to talk to you 24/7.
You should definitely give him insight into your life.
Just don’t allow every moment to revolve around him.
When you care about yourself more, you become a prize that he will want.
Once he notices you aren’t around as much, he’ll beg for your attention.
Read also: 51 Self-Care Weekend Ideas
2. Have Confidence, Not Neediness
I can’t stress this one enough.
The biggest relationship-killer is the girl that’s too needy.
How do you build confidence?
By knowing you are amazing just the way you are.
Nod your head and smile while reading that last sentence because it’s true.
Speak your mind.
Be proud of your opinions.
Set boundaries and don’t compromise.
Walk with your head held high, a smile on your face, and confidence oozing from your pores.
If you are happy and confident being you, he will listen and pay more attention to you.
Read also: 12 Effective Confidence Building Exercises
3. Master The Art of Less
You don’t have to slap him across the face with flirtation.
Smile at him.
Brush your fingers along his hand.
Shoot him a look that says you know he’s checking you out.
Send him a funny text that you think about him sometimes.
These small things will make him crave more of your attention.
Read also: 10 Ways Real Love Feels Like
4. Be A Mystery
Predictability is the worst.
Every time he talks to you, you give him the same routine.
Little details about your day.
How you feel.
What you’re thinking.
Slowly sprinkle bits and pieces about yourself so he can’t get enough of you.
This creates mystery and will have him yearning for more.
5. Don’t Drop Everything For Him
If you have told him ‘see you later’ five minutes before you were going to hang out, guess what?
You just became his mommy.
Instead of canceling your life for him, ask if he wants to join you.
“Are you busy tonight?” Ask if he wants to hang, he’ll jump at the chance.
Plan your schedule around you first.
You like surprises, so give him one.
6. Flirt Like There’s No Tomorrow
This tip goes hand in hand with number three.
Make sure your flirting is purposeful.
Smile at him.
Catch his eye, and hold it.
Brush up against him casually.
Give him a genuine compliment here and there.
Light teasing combined with sex appeal and a little mystery equals great flirting.
Great flirting will have him begging you for attention.
7. Be Playful
Men love a woman that can have fun and not take life too seriously.
Playful teasing about something funny he said will make him remember you.
Challenge him in a playful way.
Light laughter can go a long way.
When you’re playful, he’ll think about you when you’re not around.
8. Give Him Attention When He Deserves It
Sometimes guys go out of their way to show you they care.
Say thank you when he does something nice for you.
Offer a genuine compliment when he deserves it.
It’s okay to need a little appreciation.
As long as you balance it with some independence, he’ll want to earn your attention.
9. Have An Interesting Social Life
No man wants to hear about every minute of your day.
If you’re posting pictures of your lunch on Facebook every day, stop.
You don’t have to go off the grid, but show him you like to have fun without him.
When a man sees that his girlfriend has her own fun, she automatically becomes more attractive to him.
10. Create Some Distance
Wait, what? You said to make him want you by spending time with him. Yes, and no.
Playing hard to get never helped anyone.
Taking a few seconds to respond to his phone call will make him realize how much he wants to hear your voice.
Creating distance allows him to miss you and contemplate how awesome you are.
Withdrawing a little bit shows him you have a life without him.
This isn’t playing games; it’s a natural give-and-take that we call baiting.
11. Dress To Impress Yourself
You want to project confidence.
How do you do that?
By taking care of your body.
Wear that sexy shirt that makes you feel amazing.
Make sure your hair looks nice and you smell good.
Don’t do these things for him. Do it because you know you kick ass.
When you know you look good, he will too.
And he’ll be paying closer attention to your awesomeness.
12. Random Acts Of Kindness
Men notice when you are kind to others.
Buy him a drink just because.
Send him a cute gift to brighten his day.
Help that homeless guy on the street.
Show empathy towards others and your neighbors.
Be kind, not fake kind.
When you are genuine with your sweetness, the attention you receive from him will be genuine.
13. Show Him What He’s Missing Out On
Every now and then, remind him why you are awesome.
Post that video of you and your friends laughing on Facebook.
Tell him about your day when you got the promotion you worked so hard for.
Share with him how amazing your life is…with or without him.
As soon as he thinks he could be missing out on you, he’ll fight to have you.
14. Set Boundaries
Having boundaries will make him see how valuable you are.
If he doesn’t respect your boundaries, he’s not worthy of you.
Don’t feel bad about telling him no.
Stand up for yourself emotionally, physically, and mentally.
You are your biggest advocate, so don’t be afraid to defend yourself.
Setting limits will make the time you choose to give him your attention special.
15. Just Be You
There you have it.
15 ways you can get him to beg for your attention.
If you mastered everything on this list, you are-awesome-in-shoes kind of girl.
But remember…
You have to be you.
Don’t pretend to be someone you are not.
Let him see the real you, and when he does that, he will not only be attracted to you. He will seek you out and your attention.
Conclusion
So there you have it.
15 ways you can make him beg for your attention that have been tested and proven to work by men.
You don’t have to play games with his head.
Just be yourself and show him you are happy, confident, and complete with or without him.
As he notices your outer sparkle, his eyes will be drawn to you like a magnet.
The more he sees how wonderful your life is, the more he will want to be a part of it by giving you the attention you deserve.
FAQ
Q: Do these tips mean I should play hard to get?
A: Sort of. You want to shine so bright on your own that he wants to be around you. But you shouldn’t fake interest or try to be someone you’re not.
Q: How long will it take to see results from these tips?
A: Every situation is different, but if applied correctly, you can expect to see some changes within a couple of weeks.
Q: Can these tips apply to my current relationship?
A: Absolutely! They will help improve your relationship by making your partner pay more attention to you.
Q: What if he still doesn’t give me attention?
A: If a man refuses to respect your boundaries and take your tips seriously, he is probably not that into you. Focus on you and attract someone who will cherish your attention.
Q: Are these tips good for early relationship/dating apps?
A: Yes! Confidence, playful teasing, and not jumping all over him will set you apart from other girls he encounters.
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