There comes a point in life when you realize that looking feminine isn’t only about makeup and cute clothes. There is beauty in how some girls simply walk through the world. That day will click for you one day too, and you’ll notice it every time you see a woman who seems to effortlessly attract the right kind of energy and people.
As I mentioned before, feminine energy is powerful because you simply feel good around these kinds of people. There is grace in their step, confidence in their voice, and beauty in their eyes.
My favorite part? They aren’t trying too hard.
If you are looking to understand how to attract feminine energy into your life or become more feminine yourself, then read on!
15 Ways to Be More Feminine
1. Self-care
Let’s start with the basics.
Your feminine energy cannot flow if you don’t take care of yourself first. You cannot pour from an empty cup.
Girls who exude feminine energy understand the importance of self-care.
Whether that looks like pampering your body with a bubble bath, putting on your favorite lipstick, cooking a healthy meal, drinking water, or sitting down to meditate or write in your journal.
Take some time each day to appreciate your body by listening and honoring how it feels.
Read also: 51 Self-Care Weekend Ideas
2. Graceful movement
Another thing I’ve noticed about women who carry themselves with grace is how they move.
There is power in the way they hold their head high, gesture when they speak, and simply walk from point A to point B.
Feminine energy is powerful because you feel good being around it, and movement is one way you can exude that energy.
So take up dancing. Stretch your body and get comfortable with how you look and feel as you move.
Use slow, graceful movements when you walk or talk.
Read also: 10 Signs You Have Dark Feminine Energy
3. Tune into your emotions
Allow yourself to feel whatever emotion comes your way.
Having a strong handle on your emotions is another aspect of what makes someone feminine.
Respond, don’t react. Feel your feelings, acknowledge them, then take action on how to improve your situation or release the emotion.
Emotional intelligence is a huge trait of feminine energy.
4. Dress to express your style
Ever heard the saying “dress for the job you want, not the job you have?”
Let’s tweak that a little.
Dress how you want to feel, not how you think you should look.
A huge part of feminine energy is coming from a place of confidence, and what makes YOU feel confident will be different than what makes your best friend feel confident.
Colors, clothing styles, cuts, materials… all of these things matter when it comes to expressing your femininity.
Shop until you feel good in your skin again, and wear it for yourself (not for other people).
5. Kindness & compassion
So many people are trying to “get away with” as much as possible in life.
Please less, give more.
Offer genuine compliments to people who pass you by.
Help someone carry their groceries without them asking.
Listen when people talk and ask follow-up questions.
Practice active listening and respond with empathy.
Be kind to others the way you’d want to be treated.
The world already has enough people dragging each other down. Be someone’s reason to smile.
6. Be playful
Laughter is truly the best medicine, but playfulness is so much more than that.
Allow yourself to laugh at yourself. Enjoy childish things with your friends.
Be silly, free, and unapologetically you.
Feminine energy has a playful component too!
7. Slow down your speech
Similar to movement, the way you speak says a lot about your energy.
Do you speak quickly? Do you suck air in between words?
Feminine energy is gentle and powerful.
Slow your speech down, enunciate your words, and throw in a pause here and there.
You don’t want to sound like a broken record, but don’t talk over people either.
Find your happy medium.
8. Allow yourself to be vulnerable
Allow yourself to be seen.
Asking for help when you need it. Admitting you were wrong. Tell someone how you feel.
Vulnerability is strength, and letting your guard down allows others to do the same.
This goes hand in hand with tuning into your emotions.
If you don’t allow yourself to feel, you’ll never be able to accept vulnerability.
9. Practice gratitude
As humans, we are wired to focus on what we don’t have.
Men and women who ooze with feminine energy understand the power of gratitude.
Wake up each morning and name 5 things you are grateful for.
Tell the people in your life that you appreciate them.
Quit complaining so much and focus on abundance.
When your mindset shifts to one of gratitude, your energy shifts with it.
10. Focus on your hobbies/passions
The women that I know with the strongest feminine energies have unique interests.
They make time for the things that spark joy for them.
Whether that be painting, reading, writing, music, hiking, sports, dancing…
Make time for you. Allow yourself to get lost in your favorite things.
11. Stay calm during conflict
True femininity is not erratic or wild.
When things don’t go your way or someone says something to upset you, take a deep breath.
Think before you speak. Hurt people, hurt people.
Setting boundaries is important and you should never allow someone to walk all over you, but you can do so in a respectful way.
Raise your femininity game by standing tall during times of conflict.
12. Create deeper connections
The best part about feminine energy? It cannot be expressed if you are living a lonely life.
Deep down, we all crave human connection.
Make time for your friends, check in on your family, and talk to your coworkers.
Ask questions and carry the conversation with those who are important to you.
You’ll find that the more connected you are, the more feminine energy you’ll attract.
13. Listen to your intuition
So many times in life, we ignore our intuition because we “don’t know better.”
I used to be this way too until I learned my subconscious is always speaking to me.
Whether you consider this gut instinct, feelings, or emotions, listen to yourself and trust that you’ll make the right decision.
You know yourself better than anyone else.
14. Become more confident & practice self-love
As cliché as this may sound, confidence is key.
You will never attract the energy you desire if you do not believe you are worthy of it.
Show up for yourself first. Set boundaries with others that will benefit your well-being.
Protect your energy by filtering the type of people you allow into your life.
Surround yourself with good friends and practice self-love each day.
When you know your worth, you won’t settle for anything less.
15. It’s all in your mindset
Feminine energy is more than the tips I listed above.
At the core, femininity is expressed when you:
- Allow yourself to be curious
- Are flexible
- Welcome new experiences with grace and patience
Femininity is a state of mind.
If you focus on cultivating feminine traits like empathy, playfulness, grace, patience, and so on, you will naturally find yourself embracing your authentic feminine energy.
Final Thoughts on Becoming More Feminine
Becoming more feminine is less about conforming to someone else’s standards of what a woman should be and more about feeling confident, magnetic, and empowered in your own skin.
You have femininity within you. Let it shine!
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Will these tips work for me? I’m not very feminine now.
A: Yes! Feminine energy can be harnessed at any age or stage in life. It has nothing to do with how feminine you are “now” and everything to do with the energy you decide to put out into the world.
Q: Does being feminine mean I will be weak?
A: No. This form of energy is anything but weak. Femininity is strength exemplified through empathy, understanding, grace, and confidence.
Q: Can men possess feminine energy?
A: Absolutely. There are amazing male actors out there that are the epitome of what we consider feminine energy. Remember: it’s all about your mindset and energy.
Q: How long will it take until I become more feminine?
A: It depends! Some things you can change overnight while others take time. Remember to be patient with yourself and trust the process.
Q: How can I remain feminine when life stresses me out?
A: Stay focused on the things you can control. Self-care practices, your mood, and your mindset are the first things you should focus on when life gets tough. Practice gratitude and positivity. It will get better.
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