Maybe you’re pouring your energy into your family. Maybe you’re hustling hard at work. Or maybe you’re just going after every goal with everything you’ve got. Whatever it is that you’re doing—you’ve been going…and going…and going, like a machine.
When was the last time you stopped to take care of YOU? Check in with your body. Pause to ask yourself how you’re really doing…mentally, physically, and emotionally?
Life can be hectic. In fact, it can suck you dry. So busy keeping up with life, you forget to take care of the most important person in your life: yourself!
And when you go too long without paying attention to your needs, your body and mind will inevitably begin to speak up. They’ll whisper little signs at you. If you listen closely, you’ll hear them calling for you to slow down and take a break.
Self-care isn’t selfish. When you treat yourself with compassion and care, you’ll be able to show up even more for others in your life.
But how do you know when you need self-care? I wrote this post for all my fellow go-go-go’ers out there. Below are 15 sure signs you could use some SELF-CARE…
15 Sure Signs You Need Self-Care
1. You’re Exhausted All The Time
Feeling tired and drained—no matter how much sleep you get—is a tell-tale sign you need to slow your roll.
Fatigue isn’t just about being sleepy. It’s that feeling you wake up tired, and nothing you do seems to help.
There are many reasons you might feel fatigued. Maybe you’re dealing with stress, anxiety, or overthinking. Perhaps you’re emotionally drained.
If you feel tired all the time—despite getting enough rest and eating well—your body is speaking to you. Listen to what it’s saying: you need self-care.
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2. You Yell More Often Than Usual
You’ve been running around mentally (and/or physically) on empty for far too long.
When you’re overstretched, your patience becomes nonexistent. You might yell more. Snap at the little things. Say things you don’t mean.
None of these are okay. And none of them are you at your best. When you feel this way, you’re emotionally depleted. You’ve run out of emotional steam.
If you feel irritated by every little inconvenience, stop and listen to yourself—you’re telling you that you need a break.
3. You Can’t Focus on Anything
Do you sit and reread the same sentence five times? Start projects you never finish?
Can’t remember simple things?
When your brain is overwhelmed with stress and hasn’t had a chance to rest, it begins to slow down. Trouble focusing is your brain’s way of telling you to settle down.
4. You’ve Lost Interest In Things You Used To Enjoy
Lately, everything in life seems dull. You watch TV but don’t enjoy it. Eat food but don’t savor it. See your friends but don’t have anything to say.
You might wonder: what’s wrong with me? Why don’t I feel happy anymore?
There’s nothing wrong with you. When you never rest, your brain and body become burnt out—leaving you feeling numb.
Your zest for life depends on you taking a break to recharge.
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5. You Worry Too Much
Sometimes it’s normal to feel worried or anxious. But what happens if these feelings don’t go away? What happens when you constantly feel stressed about everything?
Chronic worrying often comes from the small stresses in life. You know…the ones that build up when you never take time to slow down and recharge.
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, when we don’t practice self-care, our bodies experience stress this way:
6. You Feel Numb
Disconnected
When we don’t take the time to properly care for ourselves, we often don’t understand how we’re feeling. Instead of feeling stressed, angry, anxious, or sad—we may just feel…nothing.
Enjoying life and connecting with yourself comes from you making the time to relax and take care of your needs.
7. You’re Always Catching Colds
Ever notice how you seem to get sick easier when you’re burning the candle at both ends?
When you’re not sleeping well, eating right, or taking time to relax, your body becomes vulnerable to illness.
Taking care of yourself means allowing your body to rest when it needs to.
8. You Can’t Sleep
Whether you have insomnia or just feel drained when you wake up in the morning, poor sleeping habits are a sign you need self-care.
When you’re overstressed, oversensitive emotionally, or burnt out—sleeping is one of the first things to go.
Not only will you feel more emotional and overwhelmed when you don’t get enough rest, your thinking becomes clouded. You move slower. Everything feels like a chore.
Sleep isn’t a treat you reward yourself with. It’s a necessity your body requires each day to function.
Give your body what it needs.
9. You Say “YES” When You Want to Say “NO”
Do you often catch yourself saying yes to things you’d rather say no to? Maybe you agree to do something because you don’t want to upset someone or make them feel bad.
Are you constantly people pleasing? It’s nice to be nice. But people pleasing drains your energy and will ultimately lead to resentment.
One of the best forms of self-care is setting healthy boundaries with others.
It’s okay to say no sometimes. No matter what anyone else says.
10. You Feel Like Crap at Everything You Do
“I’m such a bad mom.”
“I’m never going to get this promotion at work.”
“I mess up my relationships way too much.”
If your self-talk is filled with negativity and you can’t seem to catch a break—it’s time to take a step back and practice some self-care.
When we don’t allow ourselves to recharge, we start tying our self-worth into how productive we are or how “perfect” we can be.
Truth is: you’re not a machine.
You’re human. And it’s okay to be imperfect. In fact, it’s more than okay.
It’s necessary.
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11. You’ve Neglected Your Personal Hygiene
If your reply to “how are you?” is “I haven’t showered in days,” then you’re officially burned out.
Staying on top of basic hygiene can be overwhelming when you never allow yourself to rest.
Your body and mind are screaming at you. Slow down and take a break. You need self-care.
12. You Feel Guilty For Taking A Break
Ugh, guilt. We all hate it. But did you know that guilt and self-care hate each other too?
According to the American Psychological Association, feeling guilty about being lazy or selfish when you take time for yourself can prevent you from practicing self-care altogether.
The more you convince yourself that staying busy = being worthy of love, the harder it will be to relax, slow down, and practice self-care.
Listen: self-care is not a luxury. It’s a necessity.
If you feel guilty taking time for yourself, you’ll never allow yourself to recharge. And that, dear friend, will only cause you to burn out even more.
13. You Compare Yourself to Others
Comparison is the thief of joy. And if you find yourself constantly comparing your life to others—you may be starving for some self-love.
Comparison will make you feel inadequate and lose focus on how far you’ve come already. Everyone’s path in life is different.
Just because someone else’s highlight reel looks good on Instagram doesn’t mean your life is bad.
You need time away from the world to find yourself again.
14. Everything Overwhelms You
Do small tasks make you stressed?
Do you feel overwhelmed by life’s simple decisions?
If you feel like everything is too much for you to handle these days, you might truly have too much on your plate.
It can be easy to think that pushing harder will make you feel better. But the truth is, you need to slow down.
You don’t need to take on more responsibilities. You need rest.
15. You Ignore the Signs and Symptoms Your Body Is Telling You
This may be the worst sign of them all.
If you know you need to slow down, take a break, or take better care of yourself—but you refuse to—you’re asking for trouble.
“I’ll sleep when I’m dead,” we say. Or “I’ll rest later…”
News flash: your body and mind don’t lie.
If you feel like you need a break—take a freaking break. If you need to cry, cry it out. If you know you need to slow your life down, then damnit…SLOW DOWN!
Sometimes these feelings manifest into sickness. Other times they show up as anxiety or depression. You might even find yourself completely burned out.
Listen to your body while you can hear it whispering. Don’t wait until it’s screaming at you.
Final Thoughts
Self-care looks different for everyone. But one thing is for certain: if you don’t take care of yourself, no one else will.
Loving yourself isn’t selfish. It’s necessary. Part of loving yourself is checking in with your body, mind, and soul to assess how you’re doing.
You can be your biggest supporter and your worst critic. Remember that you’re only human. Give yourself grace and learn how to treat yourself with the same love you give everyone else.
Life will go on, even if you fall apart. But your happiness, your peace, and your balance may not.
Never forget to take care of you.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know if I’m burned out or just tired?
If you feel tired and drained all the time—even after rest—and everything feels harder than it should, it may be a sign you need self-care and a real pause.
What if I feel guilty when I rest?
Guilt is common, but rest is still a necessity. If guilt keeps showing up, it may be a sign you’ve been pushing yourself too long without a break.
What’s one small self-care thing I can do today?
Start with one tiny choice: drink water, take a short walk, say no to one thing you don’t have the energy for, or do one small act of hygiene that helps you feel like yourself again.
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