One evening I’m at a friend’s party talking to a guy when he starts telling me about this girl he started dating recently.
He starts telling me all these small things she does that make him fall more in love with her each day. Things you wouldn’t think to put in a “Top 10 dating tips” article.
I sat there thinking to myself… Wow. Men don’t just notice pretty faces and shallow personalities. They see EVERYTHING – unique qualities, energy, quirks, and soul.
Since growing up, I’ve seen hundreds of relationships come and go. I’ve talked to thousands of men and learned the patterns that ALL of them tend to look for.
You want to know what they are? Scroll down!
If you’re looking for the secret small things men unconsciously notice about women that make them want her, then you came to the right place.
13 Unique Things Men Like in Women
1. Confidence
Confidence and arrogance are not the same thing, and trust me when I say men can tell the difference. Confidence is quiet. It’s real.
When a woman feels secure about herself and her life, men notice.
It’s not always about the loud ones in the room or the girl with her hand up the most. Men can smell insecurity from a mile away.
Letting your head be held high, trusting your decisions, and not needing someone to validate you every 2 seconds are things men quickly notice and admire.
Read also: 12 Effective Confidence Building Exercises
2. Kindness
Yeah, you can fake a smile and pretend to say nice things. But you can’t fake being KIND.
Men notice how you treat your waiter at a restaurant. How you treat your friends. How you treat random strangers.
It’s those little things that show men you’re an emotionally mature woman who knows how to care about others. And men love that.
Kindness allows men to be vulnerable with you. It allows them to open up without fear of being judged.
Read also: 50 Random Acts of Kindness to Spread Happiness
3. Intellectual Curiosity
Yep, I said brains are sexy. Don’t hate. When I say intelligence, I don’t mean sitting down and debating about politics.
Men love women who ask questions about the world. They love a girl who has an opinion because she’s educated, not because she heard something on the daily gossip news.
Asking questions and wanting to know more about things in life is what makes a woman attractive to men.
Read a book and tell him about it. Try a new hobby and show him you enjoy learning new things. Have conversations about life that entertain the both of you.
4. Sense Of Humor
This goes back to the whole “don’t be serious ALL the time” point. Guys love girls who laugh at themselves.
You don’t want him to take life too seriously? Throw some funny nicknames his way every once in a while. Let your playful side come out when you’re around him.
A man wants to feel like fireworks go off when he’s around you, not that he just found another household task to do.
Read also: 10 Things Women Do That Make Men Weak
5. Realness
Poseurs breed like cockroaches, and guess what attracts those types of females? More posers.
Men can smell females who are truly being themselves from a mile away. Authenticity is sexy and rare.
Show your real self to your man. Show him the things you like (even if they might seem weird) and let him get to know every inch of who you are.
Let him see your passion and drive for life, and most importantly, LET HIM LOVE YOU for who you are, not who you think he wants you to be.
6. Emotionally Aware
Men dig women who know how to handle their emotions. I’m not saying women who cry at Hallmark commercials are a turnoff, but you get what I’m saying.
Men love women who can control their emotions when they need to, communicate when they’re hurt, and know how to end arguments like a boss.
When a woman can keep her emotions in check (for the most part), men feel more comfortable with her. They know she won’t randomly explode or flee every time things get a little tough.
7. Passionate
Men love ambition and passion. They love women who want something in life and aren’t afraid to go get it.
When you show a man that you’re passionate about something, he feels your drive and wants to be around you more. Passion is contagious, my friend.
Men love driven women, but don’t make everything about yourself. Allow him to be passionate about his hobbies and interests too.
Two go-getters build a great team.
8. Unique
Be you, because everyone else is taken.
Men notice women who stand out from the crowd. Ladies who dress differently than the mainstream, think differently, or just have a certain vibe others don’t.
It can be your style, your weird hobbies, or even the way you laugh. As long as YOU love everything that makes you unique, a man will notice and adore you.
9. Sensuality
Sexual doesn’t always mean sexual. Men love it when women are subtle with their touches and carefree with their sexuality.
Put too much focus on touching him and telling him how much you want to jump his bones and he’ll tune you out.
Instead, let your energy speak for itself. Confidence in your body and your touch can go a long way when it comes to physical attraction.
10. Supportive Nature
There’s a difference between supporting your man and smothering him. Men need a woman who can support them emotionally and mentally.
Whether you’re building each other up from a bad day or giving him motivation when he’s feeling lazy, showing your man that you got his back goes a long way.
Knowing you have a woman who believes in him makes all men feel like sex GODS.
11. Mystery
Sorry girls, you have to give men a little something to work for. I’m not saying you should be shady or seductive 24/7.
But men love it when you don’t give away your whole life story in one sitting. Keep them guessing, have fun outside of the relationship, and keep your sensitive information to yourself.
As soon as a girl stops becoming a mystery, men lose that interviewing stage excitement and settle.
12. Positive Vibes
Who wants to be around a Debbie Downer all the time? Men quickly recognize females who radiate good energy.
They notice when you look at every situation as an opportunity instead of a problem. They see how you laugh through the hard times and choose to focus on the good in life.
Your man wants to feel safe and secure with you. Ridding your relationships of negativity will give him that assurance.
13. Genuine Interest in His Life
The last thing I’ll mention is how much men notice when you actually care about what they have to say.
Asking questions and digging deeper shows your man that you’re not just listening to reply, but that you actually care about his life.
Show interest in his hobbies, interests, and stories. Make him feel like he has the coolest girlfriend on the planet and watch your relationship reach new heights.
Conclusion
While growing up, I realized that most men don’t just notice your pretty face. Men notice what makes you, you.
They see your confidence, authenticity, humor, intelligence, passion, and everything in between. These unique little qualities are what will replay in his mind when you’re both naked.
If you just focus on bettering yourself and being YOU, you’ll attract the right man that will notice everything you have to offer.
FAQ
Q: Are these qualities more valuable than her physical appearance?
A: YES! Looks only get you so far. But when a man really falls for a woman it’s because of her uniqueness.
Q: What if I don’t naturally have some of these qualities?
A: Build them! Confidence, intelligence, and positivity are qualities that can be learned over time.
Q: Do all men notice and look for these traits?
A: Every man is different, of course there will be variations. But by far, most men seek these 13 qualities.
Q: How can I show him I have these qualities without being too forward?
A: Live YOUR life! If you’re curious, you’ll ask questions. If you have a fun personality, you’ll laugh. Be you and let these traits shine through naturally.
Q: I need to work on all 13 of these?
A: No one’s perfect. Work on the qualities that will better you as a person and stay true to who you are.
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