Two chicks were arguing about what turns men on.
“I’m telling you, it’s physical.”
“No way, guys ONLY care about personality.”
Sound familiar?
Well, stop right there.
YOU are both wrong… and BOTH are right.
Because here’s the thing.
Attraction for guys does start physical. Yes, we like nice eyes, tits, etc.
But what really turns a guy on goes much deeper than just your appearance.
It’s how you carry yourself.
Your energy.
Your behavior.
Most women just never get this.
So if you want to know what makes guys tick sexually, emotionally, and mentally (even after you leave the room), keep reading…
10 Things That Make a Guy Turned On
1. Confidence (NOT arrogance)
Look, confidence IS sexy. Fake confidence? Eh. Smells like a desperate chick.
Arrogance? Laaaaame.
DO try: Authentic confidence. Where you know who you are, what you want.
When you:
- Speak up and don’t over-apologize
- Make eye contact and hold his gaze
- Stand up straight and carry yourself like a champ
Boom.
THIS is what confidence is.
Why it works: Guys instantly respect YOU when you respect yourself. Nothing builds attraction like confidence and independence.
Read also: 5 Effective Steps to Build Confidence Fast
2. Playfulness and Sense of Humor
Are you serious 100% of the time?
Does every interaction with you feel like an interview?
If so… you’re boring.
Newsflash.
Men love fun and playful women.
Women who:
- Tease them
- Make them smile/joke around
- Laugh at their dumb jokes
Playfulness = sexual and emotional excitement. And guys cannot get enough of excitement.
You don’t need to be Brendon Bradley (plays jokes on camera for a living).
But please don’t take every moment so seriously.
Read also: 65 Weird Questions to Ask Someone
3. Showing Interest in HIM
All you have to do is try a little…
But here’s the thing.
Too much interest = needy.
Not enough interest = desperate.
So what’s the sweet spot?
Genuinely curious about him. About what he does, what he likes, etc.
When you:
- Ask questions that show you care
- Listen attentively and remember things he says
- Respond thoughtfully to what he’s telling you
This screams you care about me… and when you care about someone, you become attractive.
Read also: 10 Hints to Give Your Crush Without Looking Desperate
4. Flirting with Subtle Physical Touch
Touch can be VERY powerful.
Not in a grab-his-balls kind of way.
But light, natural touch.
An arm brush when you’re laughing.
Angling your body close to his to simply “be there.”
Casually bumping shoulders as you walk by each other.
Physical touch creates a non-verbal connection between two people.
It’s small. But it can help a TON.
5. Mystery (NOT sharing your life story)
Girl, if you give a man everything you’ve got in one day,
you’ve got NOTHING left to give the next day.
But seriously.
No mystery = no motivation for him to chase you.
You don’t have to hide who you are.
But you shouldn’t:
- Spill your life story immediately
- Over-explain things about yourself
- Dump every trauma you’ve ever experienced
Create mystery by slowly letting parts of you come out.
6. Being Positive (NOT constantly complaining)
Look, I know life sucks sometimes.
But are you ALWAYS running your mouth about how terrible your life is?
Every conversation becomes:
- Complaints
- Drama
- Stressful situations
Yawn.
Nothing about that is attractive.
Lighten up.
Be fun.
Stay away from negativity unless he initiates it.
Most of your conversations should make him feel:
- Happy to talk to you
- Relaxed around you
- Positive energy from your vibes
If he feels good when he’s around you, you win.
7. Passion
What do you care about?
Is there something that you’re passionate about?
Could be work.
Could be a hobby.
Fitness.
Creativity.
Insert your passion here.
When you’re alive with passion, it shows.
It means you’re working on yourself and you have a life.
Both are extremely attractive traits.
8. HOW You Talk to Him
Communication IS sexy.
Too many people think it’s all about physical things.
But guys love great conversation.
How you talk to him is important.
Do you ramble on?
Speak clearly without nonsense?
Let him say his stuff?
Great communication equals:
- Connection
- Comfort
- Ease
All things that lead to attraction.
9. Femininity
This doesn’t mean wiping boogers with a hoop skirt.
But there’s something about feminine energy that makes men pucker up.
Can you be feminine AND a strong, badass woman?
Absolutely.
Feminine can be:
- The way you speak
- The way you move
- The way you carry yourself
Mix feminine energy with your strength, and you’ve got a winner.
Femininity + masculinity = sexual balance.
Balance is key.
10. Making Him Feel Wanted (Not Needy)
This one is.
Guys are used to women chasing them.
So when you make a guy feel wanted (without being needy), it’s like fireworks in his head.
How?
By simply…
- Complimenting him here and there (especially early on)
- Showing appreciation for small things
- Giving him recognition for reaching out to you
You are building validation.
Validation is a HUGE key to keeping men attracted to you.
BUT…
Do it too much and the attraction slides off a cliff.
Pro tip: Less is more when it comes to this.
Wrapping It Up
There you have it, folks.
10 ways you can turn ANY guy on.
AND keep him attracted to you long after you’re gone.
Hint: It has nothing to do with your boobs.
It’s how you BEHAVE yourself.
Want more attraction tips that actually WORK?
Check out my YouTube channel, where I give away way more free stuff than this blog post.
FAQ
Q: Are men really that visual?
Yes and no. Looks matter, but like 10% of the attraction pie. Way more goes into attraction than you think.
Q: Can a man lose attraction to me after he initially liked me?
Of course. If there’s no emotional connection, sexual tension, or common interest… it will fizzle fast.
Q: Is being mysterious really that important?
Girl, if you fall asleep next to him and he knows everything about you…
What’s he going to think about tomorrow?
He’ll think about how he wants to get to know YOU more.
Create intrigue with mystery.
Q: What is the NUMBER 1 mistake most people make?
Trying too hard.
Over-eager = turns guys OFF.
Q: Can you build attraction over text?
Yes. Texting doesn’t have to be boring!
Use your words to be playful, light, and interesting.
Texting is a great way to build attractive rapport.
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