Hey guys, I’ll level with you—I’ve learned about what men want in a woman. I’ve studied tons of relationships and I frequently ask my guy friends and even men I don’t know intimate details about the women they like.
I’ve realized there is more to life than just your appearance. If you are physically attractive, men will notice you when you walk into a room, but what makes a man truly fall for you and want to keep coming back? Well, that is what I am going to discuss with you today.
As always, this list is from my own knowledge and experience, as well as information I got from my male friends. Some of these things you may already know and others may be new to you.
Either way, these are things that you can see in other people and even implement into your life.
Let’s get started.
10 Things Men Find Attractive in Women
1. Confidence
Having confidence is not the same thing as being arrogant. Confidence is about knowing your self-worth and not needing anyone’s approval but your own.
If a man can tell that you are confident in who you are as a person, he will be drawn to you because you exude self-assurance. He will know that you are comfortable in your own skin and that you don’t rely on him to make you happy.
There are little ways that you can show confidence. Some of these things include:
- Maintaining eye contact
- Speaking clearly
- Standing up straight
- Can laugh at yourself
There is no need to be perfect. Guys don’t want a robot; they want someone who is comfortable being herself.
Read also: How to Be Bold and Confident: A Comprehensive Guide
2. Realness
Realness is something you definitely can tell when you see it. When a woman is real, she says what she means and means what she says.
She isn’t going to try and be everyone’s friend and please everyone around her all the time. You will know when someone is telling the truth because it just feels right.
If she says something is cool when she isn’t really feeling it, don’t you know that something is off? Same thing goes for someone who is real.
When a woman is real with you and other people, you will notice that she feels comfortable just being herself, and you will be drawn to that.
Read also: 12 Things a Man Looks for in a Woman
3. Sense of Humor
Who doesn’t love a girl who can make them laugh? If you can make your crush laugh, you are halfway there.
A sense of humor is attractive because girls who can joke around show that they are intelligent and that they don’t take everything so seriously all the time.
If you can tease your guy and he can tease you back while knowing your boundaries, that is when you know your relationship will be full of laughter.
Little things, such as being able to joke around during a conversation or sending him funny texts, are great ways to show your sense of humor.
Make sure that you always bring joy to his life.
Read also: 50 Ways to Respond to “How Was Your Day?” (Without Sounding Boring)
4. Intelligence
When most people think of intelligence, they think of how smart a person is academically, but that is just a small portion of what intelligence actually is.
Men are attracted to women who they feel that they can have deep intellectual conversations with.
If you show your partner that you are curious and can reason things out, you will automatically come across as smart.
Trust me when I say that men respect intelligent women.
5. Kindness
Kindness is something you always notice when you see it. There are certain people in this world that just care about others and want others to feel good.
If you are someone who goes out of your way to help others in need, being kind to others will come naturally to you. Things like holding the door for someone or helping an elderly person with their groceries are simple gestures that show you are a caring individual.
Men are able to tell when a woman is genuinely caring because they seek that emotional maturity from their partners.
6. Ambition
Do you want to know what men think about when they see a woman who has goals and goes after them?
They think, “Damn, she must be motivated to do what she wants in life.” You don’t have to be the best at something to show your partner that you have ambition.
Simply showing that you are going after what you want in life will inspire him. Whether you’re going to school, furthering your career, or learning how to do something new that you have interest in showing, you can grow.
This will spark his attraction.
7. Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is another one of those qualities you will notice when you see it. Some people are just better at handling their emotions than others.
If you are someone who has high emotional intelligence, then you know how to properly express your feelings in a calm manner.
You don’t guilt trip your partner when he hurts your feelings or play little games when you’re upset. You accept that people make mistakes and handle situations in a peaceful way.
This will let your partner know that you are empathic and can validate his emotions when he might be struggling, which will subconsciously make him want to take care of you.
8. Physical Attraction
Okay, yes, appearance does play a role in attraction, but that does not mean that you have to look like a supermodel for your man to find you attractive.
Like I stated earlier, your walk tells a lot about you when you walk into a room. If you feel comfortable in your skin, others will be able to tell.
Some things you can do to improve your physical attractiveness:
- Wear clothes that fit your personality
- Take good care of your hygiene
- Carry yourself well
These are just a few things that you can do to help enhance your natural beauty.
9. Playful
Would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who was super boring? I didn’t think so.
If you appreciate your significant other by making him laugh and playing cute games with him every now and then, he will feel the same way about you.
It is important to always create good memories with your partner. You never know when things may go south between the two of you.
10. Self-Love
One thing that every man wants in a woman is that she can take care of herself. If a woman is in good shape, can hold her own in a conversation, and isn’t needy, men will be able to tell that you know how to take care of yourself.
Self-love is very important when it comes to relationships. If you love yourself first, your partner will love you for who you are and will want to make you happy.
Showing your partner that you are capable of being happy on your own will allow him to appreciate you more.
Conclusion
Men want everything that I mentioned above in a woman. They want someone who is confident in themselves and their abilities.
They want someone who can make them laugh and who will always have their back. If you have or lack some of these qualities, that’s okay.
You can always implement these qualities into your life. If you take anything away from this article, let it be that guys truly do appreciate a girl who loves herself.
FAQ
1. Do men look for personality over looks?
Men like attractive women just as much as we ladies like men in good shape. They also appreciate women who have good personality traits.
2. How do I become more confident?
You become more confident by knowing your worth and by taking care of yourself. Confidence can be built by pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone.
3. How do I become more playful?
You become more playful by allowing yourself to have fun. Letting your guard down from time to time will allow you to be more playful.
4. Does being independent in a relationship really make you more attractive?
Yes, it does. If you can care for yourself emotionally and financially, then your boyfriend won’t have to worry about those things and will show you more attention.
5. How do I become emotionally intelligent?
You become emotionally intelligent by taking a step back and observing your emotions.
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